scent of the day: Amber Kiso, by DS & Durga.—Its polished cleanliness (super-medicinal greenery that gives off a phantom metallic lemon) making even its more gritty facets (animalic leather and urine warmth) seem as chill and slick as Baudrillard in a Blade Runner Tokyo (indeed, almost even like the virtual stuff of Willam Gibson’s cyberpunk dreams), Amber Kiso—a loud projector, especially in the opening (keep your nose away), that would perhaps be among my top two ambers if only this geisha had just a tad more body-yadi-yadi (or, on the chance that she is thicker than she seems under all her silk, was a tad less nose-blinding)—is a meditative fragrance that dials back, in the spirit of minimalism we associate with Japanese culture, the sweet syrup and baking spices of benchmark ambers (think: Serge Luten’s Ambre Sultan, Profumum Roma’s Ambra Aurea) and tosses in some smokey frankincense and powdery iris as well as a variety of brisk evergreen elements (Sawara cypress, hinoki wood, Asahi Zuru maple, tree moss), cold and bright elements that (in conjunction especially with the leathery labdanum) make for a bandaid-turpentine presence like we get in other patchouli-and-herbs leather woods (Gucci’s Guilty Absolute, its older sibling or father, and Bianchi’s Black Knight, its cousin) but with a butter-popcorn-meets-warm-urine envelope that makes it truly one of a kind (and perhaps my favorite of the three)—the overall effect, haiku-like in its austere aura, being to transport the wearer to a winter pine-grove scene (prickly at times, prickly like Pineward’s Brokilän if you nosedive through the butter) where the sacred and the industrial merge in what again seems (because of the hyper-crisp aura of sanitization) a cyberscape: an incense-tinged Shinto shrine whose entrance area or courtyard, which features NPC leather workers hammering final touches on Bushi armor on a cold morning, serves (so we might imagine) as the fight arena for players plugged into some videogame reminiscent of Black Mirror’s “Striking Vipers.”
* For those who are following each iteration, I bolded the areas I worked on today. The post-note is still very rough. Help is encouraged. Thanks.
Sweetmeats
From the bearded seal bloodbaths of the Arctic’s ominous ice drifts, we shift now to the human world. For all our tea-time pretensions to civilization, tooth-and-claw instincts—undiminished, if not riled all the more, by the self-shame frenzy to conceal them—tinge the private nooks even of our most tranquil sanctuaries. Observe the delicate genesis of a chilling predation neither whose familiarity, nor whose stretches of boredom (too vast for real-time coverage), detract from its spectacularity. Rarely successful absent the foresight of a cunning mind (whose willpower must be rigid enough to plod onward for the long haul and yet nimble enough to course correct come the inevitable curveball), it is a calculated hunt that pushes delayed gratification to limits rarely seen on our planet—limits readily surpassed perhaps only in the algorithmic wake of our AI progeny.
Light-hearted interaction marks the first tentative taps on the jar of trust, its lid tight as the sphincter of a child in chronic fight-or-flight. Georgie—for Father Peady no more than a cherry-glazed sweetmeat in a confectioner’s pick-me window—stands out among the other altar boys. His trifecta of vulnerability, encased in sleepless eyebags dark as Halloween, draws in the peers whose very bullying (from name-calling to double-team wedgies and titty twisters, the whole nine) red carpets the way for our hungry priest, his belt too notched to need such a compass: (1) broken home pickled in enough alcoholic neglect for more than one cigarette mattress fire melted into forever memory; (2) only child starved as much for attention and belonging as for the skill boosts of sibling competition, his social instincts as blunted as his confidence; (3) fat as all honeybun hell (his spare tire and love handles streaked with the silvery-pink stretchmarks of a pregnancy hydrated by his mother’s Newports and Mountain Dew, a gas station—its milk priced too high not to choose the cheese puffs—the only grocery store for the carless family).
Best-foot-forward compliments spill organically from Father Peady’s lips—bridled, of course, from love-bombing extremes (this is not, after all, amateur hour). “Oh wow, a true artist in the making!” he murmurs, the click of his loafers coming to an abrupt stop in a feigned astonishment that quickly turns sincere. For even through his mock scrutiny of the boy’s pen drawings of ninja combat, the blood—red ink, school-counselor worthy in volume, warping and bleeding through the paper—screams like a first-date overshare of “daddy issues” drip-feeding erotic significance into an already telling choker necklace: loud enough to make Father Peady glance over his shoulder for rival sharks circling among the clergy—chief among them the younger and more hip Father Phielie, whose dozens-of-deaf-ears nickname (“Touchy”) both adolescent and adult gossipers alike tuck with a chef’s kiss between the “Father” and the “Phielie” (the guard-lowering theater of vigilance maintained by such joking, perhaps even more effective than a heavy-turbulence plane-crash joke at hypnotizing the jokers into a false sense of having defanged the terror, only seeming to encourage, to Father Peady’s FOMO bitterness, the steady stream of boys excited to play his nemesis’s joystick Nintendo).
Such verbal nudges evolve to netless hoops behind the rectory, in what outwardly appears an overdue intervention to get the boy more physically active. Only a few bounces into their first game, however, the world beyond our man reveals itself as a co-conspirator. Watch it thwack an already entrapping dessert with a sloppy-toppy of fortune so catastrophic to long-con restraint, so ruinous to the delicate dance of edging foreplay, that—by the too-good-to-be-true scrunch of his brow (pure candid-camera incredulity at the gift-wrapped impossibility of it all)—it is a miracle of synaptic plasticity that Father Peady does not yell out (as if to some Truman Show audience) what many men of his intellect and experience would have in his shoes: “What’s the goddamn catch here?”
Repeatedly defaulting—like a one-trick pony (but one hell of a trick it is!)—to the post-up play that would send even hesitant priests into game-on mode (clerical collar tightening with each carotid thump), look who becomes temptress Eve incarnate on the court. Instinctive in his flair for courtship (akin perhaps, but only perhaps, to the songbird flaring its plumage without conscious aim), the boy himself twerks an otherwise Hallmark scenario into something just shy of afternoon delight: ram-ramming his jiggly ass—back arched like a pro, crack showing over church-donation gym shorts—into a bulging, but best believe unbudging (even slightly prodding), wall of pelvis jutted forward beneath hands high in hook-shot defense—the whole sweaty tango, the lip bites and the heartening affirmations, torn right out of an Atlanta nightclub (were not, of course, each promising flicker of synchronization ruined by the rhythm of Caucasoid hips). “There you go! Yeah, there you go. Work it!”
Only loosely paralleled in the nonhuman world (like when cleaner fish venture into serrated jaws that could snap shut at any moment), where else—sea or savannah, jungle or sky—does one witness prey offering itself up with such tantalizing eagerness? Grinding enough in their violence to make any other defender reach for the jockstrap, hardcore enough in their fecal plumes to make a Goebbels out of any mother who suggests (if only in mere knee-jerk reaction she later regrets) that her daughter’s self-administered cocktail of molly and crotchless jeans played even a fractional role in the bar-bathroom rape—such asking-for-it ass thrusts, especially given their commando-indicative clapping sounds, suffice to place the boy inside (or at least just outside) the pantheon of nature’s most haunting anomalies: a female serial killer videotaping each rape-decapitation; a black American in a suicide cult guzzling colloidal silver each day in anticipation of the salvation comet; a giraffe stomping its own calf into a pulp of death on the just-in-case chance of injury after a barely-any-contact brush with a lion. “Ooh, there you go,” Father Peady says—on the verge of going skins, no matter his flab insecurity. “Yeah, drive it in! Wow, you’re good!”
Then comes the flow of golden handcuffs. Augustus-Gloop chocolate bars (insurance, lest all the b-ball exercise stir any notions of escaping the loner shell), mega nougat-filled fuckers, slipped from cassock pockets (that worm-tongue incantation “KING SIZE” girthy and lurid with the weight of double entendre) and landing in that chunky little hand like a sly drug deal, the drop executed well below the neck-craning hyperbole of look-both-ways theatrics: unnecessary but precedent-setting mafioso swagger to ensure no one sees. Eyes—always the eyes, groping eyes that do more than take you in—heavy with the weight of conspiracy, the middle finger of the hand-off hand strokes (“fondles” or “diddles” might be the better word) the sweaty palm of the recipient, pulsing at kitten-biscuits pace: that universal sign—that cross-cultural clincher, which—even if George remains as oblivious to the meaning as a spider to its owner’s chirps of “Good boy!”—still thrums with the illicit electricity of a one-sided secret too swollen for a mere amuse-bouche.
Marquee gifts shine against such a calorie-dense baseline. A paperback of The Hobbit, wrapped in tissue paper with a simple “To Georgie,” finds its way into the door-dangling-by-a single-corroded-pin mailbox—a rusted joke, flag long gone, bungee-corded to a rot-stricken four-by-four leaning at a satanic angle like a defunct utility pole slowly surrendering to the train-track river. A gentle nudge from Father Peady’s favorite author, the book is meant to prime the boy for entry into Joseph Campbell’s heroic cycle (where answering “the call of adventure” requires status-quo-breaking bravery, not to mention a wise mentor to help navigate the nether regions). Once reading-comprehension questions confirm that Georgie has reached the part where Bilbo acquires the elven sword Sting (as much a phosphorescent orc-killer as a symbol of Bilbo's growing nerve to defy the safety-first dogma of the Shire in his heart), Father Peady presents what he calls “a talisman for your own journey into the wild”: a “sacred” rosary, each bead kissed (flicks of tongue only slow-speed replay could catch) and handed over with an unwarranted smile of conspiracy—a foreboding rictus of stringy salivation webbing his teeth like spider silk—as if some infernal covenant had just been sealed.
The steady flow of nuptial indulgences over the months is designed to create dependency. “Designed,” however, might be saying too much. The ensnaring process, is it the preplanned fruit of fiddler-crab-finger deliberation? Or is it more like how God—too perfect to require any drawing-board blueprint—creates everything in an eternal instant of impromptu (an improvisation that makes Coltrane, even in the deepest pocket of heroin-suppressed ego, seem like a rigid technician full of nothing but clockwork gears, too anal-puckered to welcome inside the hesitancy-banishing babble of the holy ghost)? Might it all just be, to speak more appropriately for our realm (natura naturata), simply an organic matter of tried-and-true animal instinct, as in the case of male spiders presenting females with bug protein wrapped like valentines? The trust-in-the-process grace of his leonine movements, the effortless way each gesture lands with the authenticity of winging it—this, paired with the unblemished calm of his hands (no gnaw marks on knuckles, not even a sliver of chewed nail), suggests the latter. Whatever the truth, the impact is clear. So unbroken becomes the procession of these courtship offerings, these manipulative displays of skills and resources, that anyone could predict the effect of its sudden cessation: agitation if not outright panic, the once-showered recipient (now an addict to the rhythm of reward) driven—driven from an inner need, a furnace kindled into self-perpetuating heat (like a nebula condensed at the protostar cusp of nuclear fusion)—to puzzle out (index fingers steepled beneath his nose) what must be done to return to the fold of good graces.
Ambush patience rivaling that of Sauron (a self-control conjured by some alchemy beyond just age-amplified phronesis and age-dampened gonads), one-on-one time soon enough extends beyond lap-twerk b-ball (where the cock-blocking eyes of nuns and rival suitors never seem to quit, some of those rival suitors no doubt nuns themselves given the history of clit-suckling forced upon native boarding schoolers slated for unmarked graves—their lice-sheared heads, in the shameful wake of climax, too much like mirrors to stand: “♪ One little two little three little Indians ♪”). It extends beyond sports altogether, the only other one being the occasional rec-room ping pong (where the boy, in what amounts to an erection-killer of frustration, cannot sustain a volley to save his maladroit life). Private Latin tutoring in the backroom becomes, in Father Peady’s words, “our thing” in “our little sanctuary where no one can bother us.” The staged excess of wine bottles, pushed out to the perimeter of the desk in the theatrics of making room (“Don’t mind these”), cannot help but draw the naughty eye during long stretches of quiet concentration (especially whenever the priest dips out to relieve himself). Their forbidden allure might even coax out enough curiosity, if only through body language (“I see you have an interest in wine”), to warrant—more down the line, of course (and only under the groomed likelihood that the boy construes himself as the prime mover of the tipsy chain)—the first shared sip.
“Finally alone together,” so Father Peady commemorates each session after moving the wine aside. Shoulder to shoulder, the connection presses much harder and hotter and heavier than pre-mass preparation of sacred vessels (where fingertips merely graze). The boy struggles as translation tests teeter toward too telling: “Puer est dulcis” and “Corpus est dulce.” Georgie’s tongue prodding out ever so slightly as he tries to work through the gender-mismatch error of “Puer est dulce,” the struggle is good. Sometimes that tongue even curls upon surprise corner chocolate—as if the boy really were the “little heartbreaker” or the “pericardium piercer” he has been called ever since that one time absentmindedness failed to reciprocate a high-five; the “little tease” he has been called ever since that one time reluctance flushed his face when asked for a “little nibble” of the gifted Milky Way.
But however much the temperature rises to blue ball proportion, composure never falters. It is as if our man were after nothing short of gold—perhaps even that beyond-podium goal (the Rushmore of untouchable legends) where aggressive claws, reaching back to pry open the prolapse, preempt the money-shot whisper (“Spread em for Daddy”) with timing too anticipatory for even the biggest player not to fall in love. How monumental must be his discipline not to veer (just yet) too far from honeyed praise—honeyed, of course, in the civet-skank way of YSL Kouros (our man’s signature animalic musk, his one yearly Bloomingdale’s splurge): “Such penmanship, almost as handsome as the hand. Look how fast it stokes! Pick up the speed. Let’s see if it ever gets real sloppy.”
All of us feel the Dionysian itch to smash what we have worked so hard to construct, especially when that red button (“DEMOLISH” in white, all caps) nudges our ribs—teen-spirit tang, musky warmth palpable, leaving a huff-worthy ass-crack impression of fleeting dampness on the chair’s vinyl cushion. See what he goes through? Our man, strapping and grim as an owl (his breath reeking of carcass locked in the recesses of root-canal crowns), walks more bowlegged by the day. A gooey string of precum dangles each time he unzips to piss. And yet he refuses to topple the tower of trust, even though his prize sits mere inches away! Through gritted teeth, he busies himself instead with bricks and scaffolding, fortifying a structure meant to withstand nature’s most brutal pummelings. “I just really can’t believe the talent of your hands.” “You have a rare mind, and an even rarer heart—but boy, those hands!”
Kids are perceptive, though. They can sense, if only preverbally, whether the praise is all talk. Dumb as they so often appear (blushing and stuttering when the math teacher calls upon them), one must especially watch out for kids made insecure by homes of dysfunction. Like stray dogs circling the outskirts of a feast, those are the ones—savants of guardedness—whose uncanny, if false-positive-prone, radar for the falsehearted sharpens under stress. Those are the ones, as in the case at hand, who see the clinamen-spoiling hidden variables, who (with survivalist precision) flinch at phantom warnings—yes, even through slack-jaw drool in the glow of the nanny tube—long before the Newport unlocks the mattress’s acrid fumes or the vomit clogs the mother’s airways mid-snore or—from what would seem to unweathered minds but a random swerve out of some Lucretian nowhere—the bottle shatters against the wall. Our boy, Georgie, turns his mother’s chin each night to the side (his own psyche still scarred from the gurgles of drowning) and hides the lighter from the wandering palpations of her mechanical hand (his own blanket still charred in smell and feel from putting out the last fire). Our boy, janitor of chaos, cleans up the shattered bottles, one eye on cartoons as he squats with his makeshift dustpan of “junk mail.” His plumber crack, ridiculous in length, only deepens the maternal grimace that, for all it swallows and spits out, overlooks the small rituals. He has taken to squeezing a shard in these moments (near-twin grimace of his own) and, in the micro-privacy of a centering zoom-in, watching the crimson arc of his own blood dribble upon the pink and yellow envelops shouting “Past Due” and “Third Attempt”—a focus-nuzzling behavior (the candle flame or mantra of the meditator) completely understandable, just as is his chronic nail-biting (the asymmetrical ravage of his front teeth telling, like the chained dog’s ever-wet bald spot, a story delivered in full even to the quick glance of a stranger: the story of an overtaxed system turned upon itself). But just as even the most disciplined meditator’s “single-point” focus still (like the flattest of tables) harbors quantum nooks and crannies, the concentration on gathering every rogue shard—even coupled with the cutter-game of redirection and the surprise flurry of silverfish—never fully tunes out the tired barrage of introspection-spurring venom: “Shoulda neva had yo’ fat ass.” More often than not accompanied by another work-undoing bottle against the wall (dig-a-hole-only-to-fill-that-hole logic straight out of Dostoyevsky’s nightmares), these taunting slurs—superfluous guarantors of the boy’s baseline mania of hypervigilance—only further accelerate that neurotic feedback loop where headiness hypertrophies as confidence atrophies; where the lower the confidence drops the lower the threat threshold drops, which ramps up hypervigilance to such hectic proportions that even normal opportunities for growth begin to register as threats—threats to avoid at all costs, but whose avoidance only ensures the lack of skills that corroborate the lack of confidence (only, in effect, perpetuates the cycle, that airless loop where fear is both architect and warden).
Testifying to what—like the magic of the wandering eye itself or, perhaps more fittingly here, the sinister genius of the spider’s web—renders divine design difficult to deny, in Father Peady even the most skittish of such high-strung boys meet their match. As for one strategy to help his praise penetrate Georgie’s guard, Father Peady sprinkles in some ridicule. Since Georgie already comes into the web fully loaded with insecurity, the tearing down is rare and more for Father Peady’s sake: this being (aside from masturbation) a good pressure release to keep him on the disciplined path. Sometimes the insults are overt, from backhanded compliments (“We need to put you in a damn pie-eating contest”) and outright ridicule (“Your dad ever teach you basic hand-eye-coordination?”) to mimicry (putting on a doofy face and walking around with Georgie’s splay-legged waddle). Other times the digs are more subtle, usually just out of Georgie’s grasp. He might call Georgie “Goodyear,” for example—the sting of the nickname cutting even deeper when Georgie connects the dots himself while hearing sportcasters direct attention to the Goodyear blimp. Or he might say something like “Hand me that Filipino contortionist, Georgie,” by which he means the manila folder on the desk. Speaking over Georgie’s head in these ways, on top of titillating the boy toward an adult world (priming him for dirtier jokes later, for example), makes Georgie feel stupid. Torn down and feeling dumb, Georgie becomes too stricken by self-doubt to question Father Peady’s motives. He becomes, moreover, more parched for praise—as if such signs of approval were, like the morning plunge of heroin for the junkie, necessary for baseline functioning (to speak nothing of self-worth and joy).
The biggest foil to Georgie’s guardedness, however, is that Father Peady actually walks the walk. He elevates his target not just through words but through “duties only for the select few”—rationed privileges designed to feel like ascension into a maturer fold. Beyond helping count weekly donations—again among the wine bottles—in the backroom (where the boy, perhaps given the various sermons on materialism and greed, once thought in his heartbreaking innocence they burned all the money), Georgie even gets to assist in the blessing of holy oils. Here he is commanded to “blow” over the oils, the stage director’s voice dipping (tenor, baritone, bass) into the kind of tone that blurs prayer and perversion, the kind of cadence that make it seem like the commands will only intensify even once Georgie learns enough to initiate the blowing all on his own: “Blow it good. Don’t be afraid. . . . Harder! Make ripples. Make ripples like the holy spirit hovering, yeah, over the sea.”
Rougher knife taps of edging foreplay escalate through compliments on how well these duties (these “well-earned privileges”) are being carried out, how the boy has “defied all expectation.” As if he were not aware that Georgie stood in hearing distance, he tells other altar boys to “be more serious like Georgie.” And look what snare our boy walks into (“Georgie, I’ll meet you in there in one minute”) smackdab on the Latin desk. Splayed open under the weight of crucifix (one that has Georgie’s name all over it, right up to the hilt) reposes a diary, its red ink underscored too many times to ignore: “Georgie is downright AMAZING! I don’t think I could have found a better helping hand.” Such smooth operation would make anyone not under a rock think they had before them the muse of Sade’s hit: “♪ His eyes are like angels but his heart is cold ♪” Sure, all this talk of being “special” comes straight out of the groomer’s guidebook. But there is good reason why it appears in every edition. Whispered benedictions of chosenness—no doubt coupled, if only we could take a peek behind the priest’s composed smile (especially with the benefit of hindsight), with the fantasies that would curdle holy water—slide like communion wine down the throat of a drunk parched for divine approval. “What hands! Such natural grace must make the archangels blush.” “God himself must have guided such a pure servant's heart to our parish.”
Ingratiation with the boy’s family (mother, mutt with countable ribs, endless silverfish) is a chore, but a must. Ecce homo, nostrils yet to stop flaring against the native reek of a low-grade gas leak, as he chokes down dinners of mystery meatloaf streaked with generic ketchup too cold to confer dignity, dinners of Hamburger Handyman™ sopping through paper plates—the mother’s attempt to act like the home is not a daily-dollar-menu disaster, a counterproductive attempt (much like the air freshener, which only adds an industrial aftertaste to the tearjerking trinity: methane, shit-bleached carpet, oniony vagina). Behold his smile, a rictus of strained cheer, as he doles out applause for the “remarkable parenting of this special boy”—raising his voice against the squeal-tinged hum from the family’s door-taped fridgelette (the pulsating noise that follows each of the inordinate number of times the compressor wins its clanging struggle to get going). Having offered on one of these nights to tinker with the fritzing furnace (“Long as my little helper’s willing to get dirty with me”), he has found himself changing a fanbelt down in the earthen-walled basement (where, although he avoids saying anything to get too over his head, the pipes to and from the main water valve he clocks as lead: flathead screwdriver scraping up unmistakable silvery flakes). Household savior, he has even dipped into donation pots to cover the back rent: “Oh it’s nothing, but I do expect”—he shoots the boy a wink—“this young man here to work off some of the debt!”
The investment of time and energy—every brick in the wall of trust (or at least of silence)—proves worthwhile. Aside from making the world seem as if it really were run by a grand justice (an upshot not to be underestimated for quivering mammals), the real payoff comes in the form of extra-ecclesiastical one-on-one time with the boy: unfettered access (bowling and pizza, late-night movies) emerging as a natural outgrowth, an organic unfolding too lubricated to raise any eyebrows. At the very worst, any family members would feel weird enough about finding it weird that they would never open their mouths. But let us not kid ourselves. What family members were there anyway, aside from the disempowered mother? It is unlikely that any warnings whisper up from within Mrs. Vidalia. But even if her battered intuition had yet to be drowned twitchless by gratitude (soused in the jug wine he never forgets to bring), she knows better—no matter what she might hear in pre-dawn reckoning—than to bite the hand that feeds.
So much depends, of course, on the finesse of the priest. But our man of the cloth, knowing the importance of the first few setting taps of the hammer, is nothing if not talented. He waits to strike down upon the wedge of isolation full bore only after enough of these special outings—these “date nights,” so he starts to call them (aware of the transubstantiating power of words). Duties multiply bigtime, gaining an appearance of weight and urgency that no one relevant to his designs would have the courage—let alone the vocabulary, or even the requisite other-focused awareness—to question. What little remains of the boy’s outside world begins to dissolve, eclipsed by the engorging shadow of his Gandalf. This is where manufactured emergencies come in: like asking the boy to “drop everything” to help cleanup the “overnight vandalism,” vandalism conveniently sexual in orientation (penises painted on statues and other fodder for salacious conversation in alone times to come). These emergencies not only test and stretch the boy’s pliability, but also doublecheck for hidden angels in the boy’s sparse network (some unknown good-apple aunt or some nosy teacher) willing to disrupt the atmosphere of silence.
And what grooming story worth its Def-Leppard sugar would skip the secret-keeping? Each complicit transgression shoots out another thread in the spider's web: sneaking an extra slice of pizza, watching a movie few parents would condone, whispered jokes lacing scripture with innuendo. The just-between-them naughtiness must ramps up in boldness in preparation for the big leagues. That explains why Father Peady, as if out of the blue, ends one Latin lesson not with a “Goodbye now” but with a locking of the door—one bolt two bolt. He makes sure the clicks of finality are loud both to underplay the strangeness while also to gauge where the boy’s instincts land on the spectrum of fight or flight. Surely the gauging here dips into worrywart territory, given the way Georgie—as if trying to set a record on number and intensity of flesh-clapping sounds (yes, even though the layers of late autumn)—has only gotten more aggressive with his posting up in the paint: spine ridiculously arched and forehead ridiculously close too the asphalt (like an HBCU cheerleader, or like one of those autistic spilled-milk slurpers ever on tippytoes). And so it comes: first a “hard-work gift” (the Ultimate Warrior, Georgie’s favorite WWE wrestler, in the form of a thumb puppet action figurine) and then, with a cork pop “in honor of [Georgie’s] college-level facility with language,” shared sips sacramental zinfandel behind drawn blinds. Sips taken so willingly, straight out of an after-school special, is one thing when it comes to “things falling into place.” But when the boy asks “May I have a bit more?” (his tone hard for the priest not to read, dump everything, into), is there not at least some recessive part of us that cheers—knowing, after all, the behind-the-scenes devotion of painful bowlegged hours—in empathy for our man (however woozy we feel in our vicarious celebration)?
In what might almost seem like coy hesitation (a flicker of shyness at the prospect of courtship tables turning), Father Peady holds back from feasting on the wine-glazed pork belly served up to him on a platter of privacy—slurring, yawning, and everything: “Someone needs a nap!” But over the ensuing weeks, the physicality ramps up with calculated precision. Hands linger too long under the guise of adjusting altar robes. Hugs multiply—extra-long ones that sometimes leave Georgie’s Payless pro wings dangling (the red-faced priest, clearly drugged on that conquer-the-world surge of love, nearly biting off more than he can chew). Shoulder massages creep into quiz time. Compliments shift toward looks, nuzzling into smells even. These are the basics, groundwork stuff. But given Georgie’s aggressor antics on the court, anyone in Father Peady’s shoes would find it crucial to communicate who the boss is. Roughhousing—“just some wrastlin’ men”—proves the perfect stage. Armpit-tickle sadism—Father Peady Hulk Hogan, Georgie The Ultimate Warrior—morphs into nipple-twisting that lingers well past “Uncle,” which sets up—in the wake of heavy breathing—a gentle spike: a reassertion of just how good Georgie smells. “Need to get these nostril all up in there,” he says and then delivers one of those restrained nibbles usually reserved for the too cute to stand: the fingers of a baby, the cheeks of a puppy.
The best priests, of course, take care not to let the flow of touch become too lopsided. Interwoven, then, with these displays of dominance are masterclass moments designed to reinforce the boy’s own active agency, showing that he too is free to have a turn at the mount position. Father Peady, to that end, first massages Georgie’s plump little hands with blessing oil, opening another crucial juncture on the path of seduction where lesser predators, especially hearing Georgie’s unprovoked blurt (“That feels good”), might have faltered (“Wanna fuckin’ know what else feels good?”). No, not our man. He massages until the hands are hot. Then he guides those hands over his own fantasy-wrinkled forehead. Wordless as a Zen master putting to shame the neurotic logorrhea of US teachers and coaches, he guides until the boy gets the hint (reciprocation becoming self-propelled). Only then does Father Peady let go, his hands shifting to grip the boy’s shoulders in false prayer—tightening just enough to make resistance feel unholy.
The best see courtship not as a caveman’s straight line (moving from shoulder to thigh to crotch), but as a hypnotic’s spiral (pushing only to pull closer). Backing off—and yes, quite suddenly is the trick—from physical contact (“I’m sorry Georgie, but Father Peady’s been too busy for basketball”) is, however counterintuitive, effective. It keeps the boy squirming in hunger for redemptive touch, his mentor’s musky nearness radically heightened in perceived value (as if it were a beloved fragrance abruptly discontinued by a market-savvy perfume house). The gnawing wait breeds brooding. In the mesmeric tic of clock hands (slowing and slowing, subject as they are to general relativity, as the center of the gravity well of grooming nears), only those whose monk-meets-navy-seal willpower could avoid sifting through memories in a pathetic attempt to discern what sin might have cost them their special status. And when Father Peady times an over-the-top scene of guffawing and back-patting with another altar boy, the ride around the mental spiral of push-pull manipulation takes a sudden gravitational plunge toward the infinite center of wondering who else might have captured the man’s attention. After the months of priming, how could the extended withholding of touch, coupled with the sight of the priest laughing like this (as he leans over the other boy, in fact, with one arm against a wall like some bad-boy greaser courting a girl in a poodle skirt), not culminate in Georgie’s desperation to put and end to the withdrawal himself—a desperation sharing at least kissing-cousin kinship to that desperation that has dope-sick mothers renting out the suckling mouths of their infants to drug-dealer testicles?
Just as the mania begins spilling into the public sphere (tipped chalices, silly translation mistakes, eyebags intensified alongside the scream of halitosis), Father Peady—his actions, as always, easy to regard as proof of nominative determinism—slides back in as abruptly as he dropped away. The quick touch—a bit of neck-kneading (light, painfully light)—serves, however, mainly as the counterintuitive prelude to something far less corporeal but far stickier. For the sake of ramping up deeper-than-physical connection, Father Peady plunges them into the diary hinterlands of doubts and dreams. “Georgie, what’s been going on with you buddy. . . . What’s really been going on?” Like unsupervised interrogators leading the child to say what they want her to say (simply by means of responding even to truth with “No, I want to know the real truth”), no answer seems good enough for Father Peady. Still holding back on the roughhousing and the basketball and even the hugs, day by day he refuses to let up until finally the juicier bits start flowing: every struggle at home (“What did you see the man doing to your mom?”), every locker-room anxiety (“How much bigger were they?”), every—you can bet your bottom dollar—pubescent dream (“Did it feel good, though?”). The priest thereby positions himself as “the only one who truly understands.” With the help of double-entendre endcaps on each confession (“I’ll always try to get you, Georgie” and “You’re safe with me, no matter how dirty it gets” and “You can always open yourself for me, even if it hurts”), soon Georgie will be whispering the line himself like a hypnotic echo: “Father Peady’s the only one who gets me.”
All the while the sexual undertow strengthens, dragging even the most reluctant ankle-waders into the darkness of mature needs. Bawdy jokes about the darndest things brothel parrots say, and about shaved vaginas being busy vaginas, and about how the yeast infection looked like the mouth of a bulldog who got into the mayo—these ramp up in graphic detail. The most sexual parts of the Bible take centerstage: the moans of the Song of Solomon; the veiled voyeurism of Bathsheba bathing under David's gaze; the penetrative violence of Tamar’s assault by Amnon (all dissected under the guise of scriptural insight). The most graphic Latin epigrams from Catullus and Martial become the material to translate, our maestro of escalation having the boy parse some of the lewdest imagery—all the while making sure (“for the sake of historical sensitivity”) lines like “Pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo” are rendered neither in their kid-friendly form (“I will humiliate your butt and have you taste it"), nor even their more literal form (“I will sodomize you and make you perform oral sex"), but in a way that conveys the shock intended by the author (“I will ram your shit in with my cock and then rape your face”).
Movie-night—yeah, that is where the real magic begins. Grade-school gossip after the Christmas break had centered on Hogan’s villainy in the recent Royal Rumble: how, in a move that reeked of cheap-shot betrayal, he had used one of his 24-inch pythons to clothesline The Warrior out of the ring despite The Warrior being caught against the ropes in a two-on-one beatdown by same two guys (The Barbarian and Rick Rude) from whom he had just saved Hogan—refusing, in effect, to do unto Hogan what Hogan ultimately did unto him. So when word spreads of a showdown in Wrestlemania VI (a match promoted less as a clash of wrestlers than as a spiritual battle between the two fanbases, the Hulkamaniacs and the Ultimate Warriors), Father Peady one-ups even Touchy Phielie and orders the event on pay-per-view—the feed of intermingled flesh finding much smoother and faster escalation from such fleshy footing, a showcase of baby-oiled homoeroticism glistening under arena lights, than from any glitchy pixel play down in Father Phielie’s wood-paneled basement.
Nudity starts small. A topless scene in Airplane (1980), just a quick bounce in the airplane aisle, Father Peady chalks up with a sheepish grin to a vetting oversight: “Didn’t know that was there.” After the apology, however, he makes sure to toss in that telling-through-asking question, that tool of the trade so foundational that a film spliced from all their instances throughout history would go on for years: “But you’re okay with that kinda stuff, right?” From there, the descent quickens—always with veneer of education legitimacy. Soon enough the rustle of popcorn fingers suddenly fall silent, suspended against the glow of bush and shaft in Quest for Fire (1982): “an unfiltered depiction of early human life.” In what no doubt sends Father Peady’s inner homunculus into a Tiger Woods fist pump (elbow jabbing downward in victory celebration), the popcorn bowl—although salted and buttered to all fat-kid hell—goes forgotten altogether, on the verge of spilling off the sofa even, as the screen plunges into the fever dream of violent clit-suckling and cum-shooting orgies in Caligula (1979): “a cautionary depiction of paganism run amok.”
As cliché as the rusty blue van with the porthole window and the oily man offering candies or asking for help to find his dog, suddenly it comes: the unmarked VHS. In “a film that illustrates the disastrous consequences of not turning the other cheek,” the two “couch buddies” find themselves—at least one of them does—swept in a vortex of titillation and revulsion (a mild approximation perhaps to the emotional disequilibrium sexual assault victims feel as nauseating orgasms gush forth “involuntarily” from their bodies under a cascade of predictable psychic attacks like “You wet now huh?” and “Ooh I knew wanted it” and “Wet don’t lie, cunt!”): a hyperrealistic anal rape scene in an unmarked VHS, a nearly ten-minute and nearly nudeless sequence that—especially with the moans and tears coupled with the punches and taunts of the assailant (“I’m gonna rip that ass” and “Get any shit on my dick and you're dead”)—would have the response needle on any penile plethysmograph jammed at the upper limits of red. As frame by frame whirls its over-green viewer through the disorienting hydraulic jump (shame, arousal, helplessness; shame, arousal, helplessness), Father Peady—one quantum twitch from the internal “Fuck it” that entails jacking himself off right out in the open (close enough in fact, that candidate justifications scramble through his head)—all the while keeps his vision divided: one eye on the screen, the other on the hand-guarded lap of the boy (gauging the reaction, reading the body’s hesitant flickers of permission).
Discussion of sexual topics, framed as guidance (as “talking through some of the heavy stuff from the other night”), proves crucial here. It feeds right into the priest taking that leap (relatively small, given how much priming work he has put in)—that leap that, however close one gets to it (however much one has made sure that it does not entail the cracking of trust), is always going to be a leap, is always going to involve the wince of Band-Aid removal (there is no other way to cut it): getting the boy to expose his genitals. Despite any visible unease in response to his “Let’s see what you got,” Father Peady—disarmer of even farfetched discomfort that he is—unbuckles and pulls his out first as a show of good faith (as if he were taking communion first to assure the boy that the bread and wine are safe to consume): “Here’s what I got.” As much as it seems to surprise Father Peady himself (the result of some phylogenic cue, like the one that has birds suddenly start flying south), the “Here’s what I got” does not spill out with a lecherous rush. Nor does it dip into the greasy and bassy tones impatient audiences might naughtily expect. His voice, seasoned with matter-of-factness (albeit in a paternal envelope of coziness), delivers the pivot as though it were no biggie really—even though, yes, in the physical sense it is quite a biggie: long and girthy (albeit nearly completely flaccid rather than the rocksteady phallus of divine authority we might have expected, his parts draping around each thigh), long and damned girthy enough not only to curbstomp the stereotype about those with a sweet tooth for the young, but also to make any empathetic soul applaud the man all the more for having chosen a relatively unworldly life of relative celibacy. “A return to shamelessness of Eden, the way God intended us”—that is how he packages the gargantuan package, the bearlike wilderness of hair covering his lower body affecting the perfect visual for the prelapsarian framing.
Now might seem the time to repeat: “Let’s see what you got now.” But aside from the fact that the first iteration of this expression still flutters in the air, it is important to read the room. Duteous rehearsal goes a long way to prepare you. But when the moment arrives the best tear up the notecards. That frees them to use what they have studied in a more organic way, in response to the environment. Perhaps more importantly, tossing the script is a more moving and symbolic way to say to yourself the self-loving words “I trust myself,” words whose real impact on confidence involves no New-Age woo. Our man knows this and practices this. He is no slave to a script. With Georgie watching with erect curiosity how the mounds of flesh pool like a waterbed, with Georgie clearly intrigued by the slap sounds each time Father Peady picks it up and lets it drop, it would be an example of not rolling with the orchestra’s tempo for Father Peady to try to divert the attention to the boy’s lap. “Look,” he says instead (and referring back to the topic they had been circling around before, in the literal sense, things got hairy), “wet dreams—that’s what they call them. Wet dreams are completely normal. The process is automatic, nothing to feel shame about. . . . You understand?”
Georgie’s nod of understanding (no fear in his eyes), whether a matter of coercion or transcendence, means it is a solid go. “Liquid comes out even in daytime,” Father Peady says matter-of-factly. “You believe that? . . . Ah, you probably know all that, right?” Georgie shrugs his shoulders, but not in that way kids do when feeling too overwhelmed (like when the police officer—in an awkward stab at kid tones—asks, all the neighbors outside watching the domestic scene, “Has Mommy been drinking tonight?” “But still,” Father Peady continues, “I can show you.” The flip-flopping of the penis, done until that point with a nonchalant tick-tock (no more meaningful, according to the orchestrated impression, than absentminded thumb twiddling), has begun to stiffen things in its conjunction with such a furnace revving statement. The metronomic back and forth continues even as the radical engorgement (fingertip to elbow) has put an ominous end to the tick-tock. “Would that be okay with you?” he asks—the thumps of blood pressure in his chest interfering ever so slightly with the usual steadfast poise of his voice. The boy not having spoken but not having said “No,” means Father Peady can take the boy’s fat and sweaty hand to his balls. “I want you to feel how it all just spasms.” He says it like it is science. “Watch.” He pulls some spit from his mouth, observing—with a downright all-tens use of both the royal “we” and the “huh?” of complicity—“We should probably get it wet a bit first, huh?”
As Father Peady reaches the precipice (quickly, no doubt, after all these months), he will convey—in a tone that ever so sightly crosses the line (from clinical distance into oohing-aahing surrender)—one hell of a command in the form of a question: “How you gonna feel it if you don’t squeeze?” As if this were a scene of a father teaching the son the basics of an oil change (held-back frustration reflected in his voice), Father Peady makes things explicit. “Really get in there. . . . Otherwise I’m like a one legged man in ass kicking contest,” he adds with a wink. “No, for real. Really get in there. Squeeze the damn things. There we go. . . . There we go. Squeeze. Ooh, here’s where you squeeze hard. Give me all the help in the world”—his tone here, restrained by nothing but whisper, shifting momentarily deep into oohing-aahing surrender: “Hard as can be.”
In the wake of the blustery eruptions, whose correlated moans and taunting mumbles he holds back with a composure meant to show that this is as normal as eating, Father Peady—surprised himself by the volume of the load and its fish-and-bleach tang (a near match to the church’s Callery pear trees in bloom)—takes care to preempt darker interpretations of the sofa scene. “See how you helped? You got it all out. That’s a big, big help. It helps me focus—.” He lets out that all-too-human post-cum exhale: “pfhhhhhooo,” savoring the release. “It helps me focus”—he points up at the crucifix—“on what matters. . . . We have to eat to focus on our studies, right? Well, guys like us have to get this all out. Otherwise we find ourselves distracted. . . . So before we clean this up, you’re gonna let Father Peady help you. . . . No, watch. Just a few kisses should do the trick, like little smooches on the cheek. I don’t think you’re ready for any of that squeezing! Here, take the oil—yep, just like that—and go back and forth. I’ll just kiss down here. Right here, see?”
From Father Peady’s own splats of exudation (splats, despite former squid-like coagulation, now weeping down chest and thighs and furniture), the aroma of indoor swimming pool has taken on, at least with nose up close to one of the splotches as he prepares to deliver his “smooches,” a zinc-like edge of stagnant saliva pooled in a rusty spoon. Signature Kouros, stirred into civety animation by the sudden surge in pulse-point heat, adds a pissy twang to the heady mix (which now, although still mainly chlorine, almost seems to give off a lactonic twinge of blood-and-pus breastmilk gone sour). Father Peady, swooning from his own aromas, considers pulling out the old thirst-trap trusty: “I’ll make sure none of your mess spills anywhere.” Post-cum sobriety, however, reins him in. He simply says, “Don’t worry about making a mess. We’ll clean it all up after.” To frame any reluctance on Georgie’s part as nothing more than worry about making a mess, Father Peady—ever the master of psychological positioning—fills the stillness with a slimy red herring. “No worries, I’ve got a dishtowel right over there,” he says (as if the mess in question were nothing more than bubbling splats of stovetop tomato sauce). The way Georgie glances back toward the kitchen, reminiscent of a naïve newlyweds scanning (as directed by the car salesman) the monthly-payment line on the sale’s contract instead of the grand total, confirms the quiet triumph of the normalcy-making diversion.
It cannot be all “See, how we can help each other?” In an ideal world of seamless complicity maybe, but not here. The unspoken bargain cannot be built solely on whispers of mutual uplift. Serving as the duel elements in the epoxy glue meant to fill any cracks in trust, guilt and fear have long proven to come in quite handy (or perhaps we should say “handsy” here): from the old resin “We’re both sinners but we at least have each other” and “You wouldn’t want to disappoint God or me, would you?” to the old hardener “Who’d believe you over me anyway” and “I’ll make sure Momma knows just how dirty her little chocoholic can be, maybe some school buddies too!” Whatever the case, none of it is just plug and play. Creativity, a sense of timing, empathy, discipline—these are crucial. The whole thing is an uphill marathon as it is. But then you have to make sure you instill fear and guilt in doses small enough not to scare anyone off. On top of that, every case is different. Every case is different just as every kid is too, each as distinct in their vulnerabilities as fingerprints in the ash of a burned-out cathedral. Some require more of a drug angle, whether to get in the mood or to prevent the sense impressions (the smell of balls, the scrape of stubble, all of it) from haunting them into tattletales ten years down the pike. Others require just a lot of camaraderie and heartfelt discussion.
Not to downplay his craftsmanship or discipline, but Father Peady—and he would be the first to admit it—lucked out with Georgie. Who could have asked for a more pliant hunk of clay, as pliant as that jiggly gut (innie belly button deep enough to serve the purpose if need be)? Even so, Father Peady is not God. It would be a stretch but for all he knows Georgie plays his cards closer to the chest. For that reason, Father Peady doles out here and there some doses of preventative shame and terror—his tinctures, however, watered down just right for his boy (a shockingly low dose for the boy’s bodyweight). “Wow, you can get pretty dirty,” he observes with casual precision—leaving out, explicitly at least, the whole “What would Momma think?” part.
Guilt and fear, of course, should never run unchecked. That kind of tyranny frays, risks rebellion. How to keep them in check is part of the difficulty, a difficulty often underappreciated from the safe remove of the living room (where it is easy for us so scoff “Shit, I can do that!” as we eat our TV dinners). Injecting counter-narratives, happier and supportive ones that soften or blur the anxious edges, often prove useful. But neither the dosage nor the timing is clear. Seduction is not baking, where the paint-by-numbers blueprint of measurements and temperatures and operations and time lengths leaving little room to veer. Like a grandmother’s instinctual stove-craft (recipes unwritten but alive in the head, too elusive to pin down for posterity), what makes seduction—especially one as dangerous as this—skew more toward an art than a science is that you just have to feel it out.
Father Peady himself leans more on the allyship angle. Although he has not thought out all the reasons why (it takes, after all, mental firepower enough just to strategize), his emphasis on making the boy feel seen and heard and connected and worthy seem quite sound considering how mildewed with shame and fear Georgie’s foundation is. Father Peady, in that case, leans harder into lines like “In a way, as long as we ask to be forgiven, it can’t be so wrong. It’s love in the end, right?” Notice the “right?” here. Notice, in particular, the tone. It is not rhetorical, not leading. Introspective (almost as if he did not mean to let it escape his lips), the tone—driven home by the imploring gaze—is one of someone seeking counsel (albeit, let us be clear: one of a shepherd, breaking script, humbly seeking the insight of his lamb). Who would not feel singular, chosen when an ordained priest looks to you for answers? Who could resist the subtle thrill of holding the answer that even a man of God seeks?
If the hunt is successful, if the hypnotic spiral of push and pulls tightens until there is no question left in the boy’s mind about where love ends and he begins, what does that mean exactly? We can explore what that looks like, the shit and blood and viscous gag mucous it entails. But first it seems important to clarify. Calling this a “hunt”—while no doubt true—can be somewhat misleading. Less than a decade back, these forays for Father Peady were more about getting off, getting away, from himself. They were more about that ecstatic moment of leaving himself in the explosive release of glandular buildup. The power imbalance, the taboo violation, were in service of better ensuring that the aching load—a metonym for himself—shot farther away from himself (the greater the distance, so it seemed, the longer he got to stay in that zone of Dionysian disindividuation). Now things are different. The glands no longer swell like they once did. And, perhaps because he has accepted his tastes, the focus has become more so about spreading himself—being fruitful and multiplying, if you will—rather than escaping himself. Much less about getting off in the most salivating way possible (the typical thing we associate with a sexual hunt), his moves are about hope. He hopes to become everything to his underling. He hopes to become so everything that the boy will initiate the unbuttoning without any guidance, that the boy will drop to his knees with unblinking eyes steady upward without having to be push on the head—as if the boy can no longer contain himself; as if his soul would meet annihilation if it did not have his everything inside where that everything belongs; as if all the nuances of his inner life, from his concerns (his mom’s welfare, his drawings, his homework, his fat gut held in two heaping handfuls in the mirror) to his memories (his dog chewing on his dead grandmother’s hand, his one photo of his dad burned in a mattress fire), were scooped out of him like pumpkin guts only to be filled with whatever the priest could shove in of himself. Father Peady’s hope, in short, is that he has won Georgie even from God, but that the winning was not a taking but a gifting—a surrender. See before, with all the other sweetmeats, hardcore debauchery—rosary beads turned anal beads—served to help shoot farther across the room like his load. But now the grinding ass-to-ass on the holiest of icons is not because taboos raises the heat and intensifies the contractions. Rather, it is because it is the surest proof he can get as a human that the boy, all for him, has turned his back on God.
The key takeaway, to put it crudely, is that Father Peady wants more than a pocket anus to cream the bejeezus out of. He wants his catamite to take the lead sometimes, surprise him. To that end, he tries hard to reign in the old authoritarian approach of mentorship. “Do this” and “Do that” accompanied by a “Now, or else” has its place. No one would doubt that. Like a good choke or a slap, it can intensify the bluster of the vinegar strokes. It also serves as good tool, in need be, for renewing the vows of the power dynamic. Especially now with the evolution of Father Peady’s goals, however, the authoritarian approach has severe limitations. For when the Father orders his little boy to give his grandmother a hug the next time he sees her (orders him an “Or else!” and even an “I don’t give a fuck how you feel about it”), that grooms the boy into acting more so out of externally-imposed duty instead of out of internally-imposed duty (let alone out of the more-preferable inner desire). But notice that we achieve a more Peady-approved result with a more po-mo permissive approach, as Father Peady himself does over the ensuing weeks when it comes to getting Georgie to play with his oil-drenched balls. Notice, that is to say, that the boy starts acting out of guilt and fear of inner lashing, out of a harsher psychological necessity, if the father takes a more liberal approach, so to say. “You know it’s your choice completely. I would never want to make you do anything you don’t want to do. But I will remind you that Grandma’s old. She doesn’t have much more time, to be honest. One little hug, maybe a kiss too—that would make her day. And yet not giving her anything, not showing your appreciation for all the cooking and the gifts (for giving us both our lives)—that would hurt anyone, and it could very well kill Grandma.” So to the end of cultivating an inner inkling to hug grandma or at least an inner shame-avoidance making him hug grandma (which from the outside looks just the same, and so allows the wishful-thinking recipient to take the most favorable interpretation), Father Peady mostly adopts that permissive style—that anti-authoritarian guise, which he often twists with the please-show-pity logic of courtly love (so as to drive even deeper into Georgie the feeling that he is a bad person not just for not hugging Grandma, but even for not wanting to). “Please be kind. Do you know the suffering just one little gesture can ease?” Only here, of course, “hugging Grandma” is a euphemistic analogy for “juggling balls” or whatever—a euphemism all its own.
As with so many areas of life, Aristotle’s golden mean (the Buddha’s middle path) is the answer. Father Peady knows that too much of the permissive approach is no good either. More than just an aid to climax (“Mouth on it now, boy”) or to put Georgie in his place (“Do what the fuck I say, boy!”), commands remain necessary for a deeper theoretical reason. Commanding, after all, drives home the difference between Father Peady and Georgie. That there be a clear difference is important. Otherwise, such as if Georgie always perfectly anticipated the right moves (tightened, sped up, slowed down, licked this, slapped that, or so on) without having to be directed, Father Peady would not feel like he really spread himself into an other. He would not feel, at least, that he spread into an other with an otherness robust enough for his victory not to feel cheap.
Such background context lends a cruel logic to what we see, months later, when we zoom through the vestry keyhole to find, in the mood lighting of votive candles licking shadows up the walls, Father Peady sprawled like a toppled cornucopia on a makeshift altar of ceremonial garbs. It helps explain why, despite Father Peady wanting to stretch himself into more than just a three-holed board, there is no contradiction in his hissing commands—no dissonance, for example, in the breathless demand (even when delivered through snarled teeth) for the second chubby arm, with all its lanugo fuzz, to be plowed up the pipe. “All the fuckin’ way. . . . Ooh yeah, little piggy gonna play in that slop.” It explains why his next demand (“Fuck those balls up good, little pig!”)—his demand, in effect, that there be no disruption in the rhythm of roughhousing that now undeniably shitty scrotum (face-butt to slurp, face-butt to slurp)—coheres with his deepest desire: someone devoted enough to spice things up with self-initiated surprises of pleasure, surprises born not out of obedience to “Show me what you working with, boy” but rather out of a self-satisfied awareness of just how tight (murder-worthy tight) of a brown snapper they have on offer; someone immersed enough that their spontaneous devotions not only anticipate the recipient’s cravings, but also prove innovative enough to unlock new ones. (And as far as this deepest desire is concerned, it is something we all can relate to. Is it not true—at least for our kind, whose hearts swell more at the prodigal son’s return than at the steady loyalty of the faithful one—that the most thrilling gifts are the unbidden surprises? Is it not true, for instance, that the never-before-seen and never-before-asked-for cobra spits (“Tua, tua”) Georgie delivers to Father Peady’s testicles (“Ooh, just what the doctor fuckin ordered!”) evoke a deeper satisfaction—eyes rotated up like in dying—than anything compelled by micromanagement?)
As far has his goals—his wettest dreams of consummate possession—are concerned, Father Peady has struck one hell of a chunky motherlode. Short of heaven (on our Earth of compromise), the best satisfaction our man could have hoped for is what he has secured in flesh and blood: a thick honeypot of hormones in the form of an acolyte obedient enough to heed every order (even if in desecration of the terminal transcendence) and yet self-starter enough to initiate unscripted gestures of tie-me-up surrender all his own—ready to stank up the house of God of all places, the sour yeast of his fat folds guiding the truffle-snuffling snout right to the radix of highest fecality. Something about the way Father Peady behaves as he closes in on the point of no return, that point where “I” and “Thou” melt into “We”—behold the mountain-moving animation of the man: finger knotted in the boy’s hair, scalp-lock ferocity straight out of German smut. Something about how he lets himself treat the boy’s mouth as a headbanging stroker toy, a mechanized pleasure sleeve, without even a smidge of the usual worrywart pausing (either to check in or to spoon in another verbal dose of grooming) seems to indicate more than just his unblemished faith that he has finally won his prize. But this is not just victory’s abandon. Study the eyes: how—if you catch the right moment—they morph from bloodthirsty daggers into puppy-dog tremblers of hushed reverence. His body language broadcasts a fact no one with any ounce of empathy could deny: that, however much he might beat the bejeezus out of every hole, he does not take his prize for granted—that, unlike the Satan he could easily be made out to be, he is grateful (achingly grateful).
Whatever underlying tenderness might lull us into the warm-fuzzy bosom of Disney, Father Peady’s command—“Stretch it, boy!”—snaps even the girliest of romantic voyeurs back to the body: to the glandular truth of flesh, here a gooey snake-tangle of flesh rank with halitotic mucous, cumin, civet, and that g-spot ass gelatin. “Stretch it way the fuck out!” Hissed with the rare curse from Father Peady’s lips (a curse indicative of serious business, of go time), the command here—while on the surface leaving room for personal pizzaz—can be fulfilled in one way only: Georgie must press his fingers together inside for fulcrum leverage and drive his palms and forearms outward, prying open contractile bands of meat puckering involuntarily from the gates of entry to the throbbing depths of the colon.
The boy’s head game says it all: this half-a-minute fury, a steady pulse of “eghck eghck egchk” punctuated by the priest’s snarling taunts (“Ooh you’re going to fucking hell for this, pig”), has surely become ritual—no mere novitiate could ever flex a throat so yielding it is ravenous. But the bar of depravity always finds a way to inch lower, does it not? And on this particular occasion, so we might assume, those peach-fuzz lips are driven, in the ultimate stroke, so deep into middle-aged mons pubis fur and unguent fatty tissue that Father Peady’s love effluvium—fermented in curdling patience—erupts from the boy’s gasping nostrils in twin streams of gak. Ungodly gags muffled in the petechial prolonging of a leg-reinforced pin-down, jugular veins distend out from that mandible-unhinging panic of snake regurgitation—until the body, convulsing for freedom, snarfs forth mandarin orange segments (grotesquely large for holes so tiny) and sinus-filling crumbles of brown, which anyone who knows what day it is (Tuesday) would recognize as lunch-lady taco beef.
Such torrential delight, cleaned up (more like smeared around) with low-capillary-action chalice linen by the apologetic boy (trembling hands unable to contain his shame)—such an ecstatic baptism of bile will likely welcome, for a tango team that has gone this far, two big downstream changes. First, the pinching closed of Georgie’s leak-prone nostrils to ensure no more waste—that will be a thing from here on, an irreversible new standard: “I want my love swallowed, pig!” Second, the dawning of a kinkier hunger, a new necessity: vomit-blasting grand finales of chef’s-kiss throat convulsion (those same penis-milking panic contractions we get, to cite the old Parisian brothel move, inside the frenzied cloaca of neck-wrung hens)—how can that not also take root, the body's rebellion turned ritual (each retch, each gag, a perverted sacrament)? We know our man by now. Absence of vomit will be framed as disloyalty. And even if the boy does not make provisions for the expected mess (chugging milk beforehand perhaps), Father Peady still wins. For disloyalty invites escalation. The shattered relic of a boy will be assigned ramped-up devotions. He might have to keep a Mary figurine up his ass throughout the school day (a g-spot twist on hairshirt asceticism). Or he might have to endure purification in holy water, face held down in the bubbling bird bath while Father Peady pumps out anal vinegar strokes. Surely we can picture such waterplay rituals going sideways: perhaps, for example, the head pinning lasts too long, the fat body rescued from blackout hinterlands by prison-averse CPR huffs—Father Peady, rock hard again not even a minute after the cortisol surge of death-sentence panic, more of an earthly savior than ever before!
And yes, all of it will be caught on Radio Shack camcorder: from the first mutual masturbation session (which, in comparative hindsight, will play like a Molly Ringwald romance) to the wood-creaking shit-and-blood ruin to come (where Father Peady, like clockwork whenever “that fat back” arches just right enough for a moan of “Fuck yeah,” will start mumble-singing, in sync with a pounding rhythm whose every breath-hitching piston plunge has sweat lash off his forehead in what would have otherwise seemed the fanciful unreality of Rocky 4 or WrestleMania, “♪ Something tells me I’m into something good ♪,” the Harmans Hermits classic repurposed for something much more intimate than a TV commercial)—all of it will be caught. In the grand impermanence, who could resist recording even the grainiest footage? No matter how warped by the white-line jitters of instability the playback may be, a zoom-in is still a zoom-in: that pale glistening globule quivering at the threshold, in what amounts to an unscripted tease of anticipation (Heinz ketchup-commercial levels of suspense that would have even female detectives desperate to see the footage through to the resolution), only to be sucked back in by the anus’s involuntary reticence (“No, you gotta push it out Georgie!”) before finally, the boy bearing down with his meager intra-abdominal might (perineum bulging as raw rectal pink strains through the sphincter’s refusal), the pearlescent translucency once again rears its milky head—swelling and swelling, jiggling on the brink of rupture, until with that primordial glug of a geothermal mud put (briefest of craters in its wake), the viscous wad of spent need, the shit-tinged creampie of opaline pink, dribbles down a horribly young scrotum with neither hair nor hangtime. Father Peady, with his bookcase-hidden archive, this way ensures himself spank-bank material that doubles, just in case (because people do change), as blackmail: “What would mom think, what would your buddies think, seeing this little cum-drinking, shit-eating, piggy?” And so the tape will keep sliding home, the final frame—a hairy Father Peady, sweat-dripping and grinning—swallowing the light.
The mundane swamps the sensational in the end. Death may conjure images of flailing guttural drama. Birth may conjure images of taxis tearing through rain-slicked streets, the father-to-be’s knuckles—still miles away and now stuck in traffic—white on the steering wheel (having had to abandon his life-changing presentation midsentence after just one look at his secretary’s face in the doorway). But things, in reality, often unfold differently: the water breaks and, instead of having to rush to the hospital, the due-Mom can finish the grocery run and come home and run a bath to wait for her partner; watching someone die in the hospital room, hands growing tired of dutiful stroking, often dissolves into leafing through old magazines and eavesdropping on nurse gossip, their voices slipping through the sterile vents like metallic birdsong—the on and on of it all so much (and this is precisely what Nietzsche says we are to love if we do love the earth and our earthly selves), the on and on of it all so much that we know what muffled thought inevitably surfaces: “Die already,” although usually, according to the more palatable script of the well-adjusted, in the altruistic cover of classic lines like “It’s okay to let go” and “You can rest now” and “There’s no need to fight anymore.” Yes, sometimes life obliges the cinema cliché—and perhaps precisely because TV, telling us who we are and how we ought to be, has conditioned us to expect it (such that, for example, the woman who could have hung back through early contractions at home now finds herself stirruped for hours under enough hospital florescence and prods and straps to make c-section next to inevitable). But even in the highest drama, banality soon rushes back in like floodwaters under a door. In the wake of the most violent death rattle, for example, a stark peace settles—and not just one stomach growls in the fidgety hush of a death vigil. In the wake of the most excruciating perineal tears that lightning bolt down through the anus, the mother finds herself swallowed by endless laundry—a tidal wave of spit-ups, blowouts, and just general babyness.
The same goes here. However much it threatens our ageist-yet-sex-fixated mores (where, for instance, where we shield children from a glimpse of a breast yet laugh along as a man’s head is pulped to jelly on screen), the same goes here. However much it fouls our fevered hope that Father Peady’s sin will be met with some grand biblical reckoning (a prison-rape hope of Hammurabi justice at utter odds with the reality that no action or thought, nor any sliver of any element in the causal chain to any action or thought, finds its buckstopping source in us), the same definitely goes here. No thunderous payback, no operative downfall—the mundane not only smothers it all (rendering even unthinkable scandal into a slow march of routine), but even (in what is no doubt a knife twist to vanilla hearts of cookie-cutter architecture) takes on a warm-fuzzy aura: that warm-fuzzy aura of old couples who (having woven a rich tapestry of shared history over decades) radiate a thick air of unspoken understanding and move as a royal-we of forged interdependence, a palpable undercurrent of love reducing even their bickering to something as sweet as the holidays).
Sex is always hottest in the pursuit. What once set the nerves alight eventually dulls to embers, no matter the initial blaze. Despite what normies like to imagine to fuel their outrage, those sustained squeal-ridden poundings of the courting phase became few and far between. The fever of fresh flesh (although still with the kid-tight grip) had already been coated in the sediment of routine even by the time Georgie’s mother—wanting to work on herself (which ultimately meant wanting to grind like a piglet on a roughhouser of her own)—gave the okay for Georgie to move in with his Gandalf. That first night, to put it in perspective, nothing sexual went down. No sordid sanctification of every room and crawlspace, not even the old get-the-tension-out-so-we-can-pay-attention ritual of analingus-heightened masturbation on the pre-movie sofa—they simply watched From Here to Eternity, Father Peady elbowing Georgie from the edge of sleep to point out the iconic beach scene where waves lap at the entwinned bodies of love (the spirit of his jab an unspoken “This is us”). The whole partnership, for all its early paradox of liquid-splashing combustion and rosebud ravaging, quickly settled into the vanillic air of domesticity—habitual days, largely full of nothing much, where to only real drama lay in the quiet mechanics of navigating one another’s moods (which never reached scream decibel, let alone the plate-smashing extremes that had seemed to be Georgie’s slated future before Father Peady).
One might like to think (again, to fuel their outrage) that the reprieve on Georgie’s holes meant Father Peady’s eye had begun drifting toward new meat. But the truth was much duller, much more mechanical. Part of it was the natural erosion of passion—entropy tightening its grip the moment possession is secured, a fact that might explain why some lovers claw in a theater of jealous paranoia at partner-snatching phantoms. But just as pressing (if not more) was the deafening neglect of his public work and private ambitions—both screaming for attention like the child of a divorced mother wrapped up in the tumultuous dating world, her man-clingy baseline lifted to stalker heights by years of touch deprivation. The long months of pursuit had drained him into a pulpit husk, his homilies delivered with the rote exhaustion of a man whose deepest jing (perhaps more jing than he had to give) had been unloaded into the gravitational maw of an irresistible dark star: the brown eye, the bocca nera—his whispered “rose bud.” He could tell the congregation could tell. He needed to shape up, sharpen his presence, claw back whatever pastoral authority had eroded in the haze of conquest. And then there was the book. He had long promised himself a manuscript—a deep-dive into the mythological and philological themes that appear in correspondence between his astral mentors: C. S. Lewis and J. R. R. Tolkien. Elemental bones of the project—scribbled notes tacked to his corkboard, typewritten outlines stiffening in his desk drawer—sent his eyes down to the floor in shame each time he entered his office, which he did only when Georgie was not there to grab whatever it was he needed there: a pen, a phone book, a takeout menu. If he did not resume the project now, it felt like the whole thing would drop away like childhood dreams and the teddy bears hugged in the nighttime formation—a dropping away that pained him sometimes into stasis (haunted by the sense of narrowing corridors, of forever collapsing possibilities; wrecked by hollow sound of infinite doors slamming shut once one is entered), and perhaps such hypersensitivity might go some way to explain his exclusive taste for young blood.
Did the normalcy of it all mean he was proud of his conquest? No. He asked God for forgiveness each night. Early on in the relationship (especially when it seemed, in a surreal twist of fate, that Georgie’s move-in was not only possible but practically inevitable), his pleas had the desperate sheen of a man teetering on the edge of belief. Even then, though, he kept his phrasing vague, sidestepping the marrow of the matter. As expected of any human short of sainthood (a fact odd in light of human obsession with lobbing stones), it was too much for him to define the soul-searching specifics about what exactly he sought forgiveness for—and certainly not the impious theater he staged to amplify the spice: crucifixes still reeking of shit, at least at a nose-dive, no matter how many isopropyl scrubbings; transubstantiated wine dumped in a steady drizzle the anal piston site (and, when missionary, over the masturbated penis above that site); transubstantiated wafers—body of Christ, Amen—placed on a tongue stretched with expectancy, awaiting the money shot (“All of it!”).
Within a year, however, the fervor dulled. Father Peady no longer capped off his bedside ritual with the Serenity Prayer—no longer begged for the power to accept what he could not change and the courage to change what he could. Jump two or three years ahead, and his nightly appeals for absolution had narrowed to much safer, much sweeter, failings—the kind that, to be honest, were all that remained. These failings inevitably revolved around the relationship, as could only be expected: Georgie’s presence loomed larger in Father Peady’s life the more retirement drew near and the more their dynamic deepened into a rhythm that felt less a kept secret than a cosmic inevitability. Father Peady asked to be forgiven, for example, for raising his voice in a disagreement about whether Eddie Vedder’s voice was any good (Father Peady endearingly jealous of the Pearl Jam singer, a poster of whom Georgie had put up in his room). He asked to be forgiven for all the banal sins of domesticity, the little trespasses of long-haul love: for not being as attentive of a listener as he could be, and for letting his enthusiasm for foreplay atrophy, and for his tendency to interrupt Georgie mid-sentence, and for slacking on exercise when he knew full well Georgie liked to be manhandled, and for slacking on pubic shaving when he knew full well Georgie had grown to like the mouth latch that only bald scrotum could allow. He even asked to be forgiven for harboring silent irritation about Georgie’s girlie habit of inverting the ice-cream spoon to shave off a few milliseconds before tastebuds met cookie dough.
The thing is, even in the early days (when guilt bit down hardest, when his absolution prayers were least evasive, when his whispers of “Forgive me” nearly carried the dead weight of a body found by fireman hanging over shit and piss and the fluids of autoerotic asphyxiation)—yes, even back then, beneath all that ideational contrition, there was this immovable stratum of satisfaction (lurking like a patient angel). It was the sense—the saving-grace sense—that, no matter the pleading, he would not have changed the outcome: being with Georgie. It was the sense—the love-conquers-all sense—against which the pleading almost seemed like playacting, like going through the motions. It was the sense—the stone of sikernesse his beloved Chaucer often called “Christ”—against which everything else seemed trivial. Father Peady believed he had found his soul mate. The path that led him to Georgie—through whatever wretched labyrinth of fate—felt not like a mistake but like a secret revealed (a door—yes, a backdoor—pried open onto a destiny the world was too blind, too cowed, to name “holy”).
In full disclosure (and why not be honest, now that all is said and done?), the first time the inner-scape neon “Soul Mate” turned on in the glorious white of near death experience was in the heat of the very first sustained rut. This was after all the nerves of newness were out of the way—when it was less about “♪ Getting to Know You ♪” strokes of mouth and hands that too quickly led to climax and more about mating; when it was, despite the animalic optics (snarling teeth, backdoor mount), about budding love. Pumping and pumping, eyes squeezed shut to savor the sublime physics of it (the gliding slip-and-slide tempered by the blessed clench of near prehensile grip), Father Peady let his hips pause for a second of rest. That was when the light came on. He opened his eyes to find corroboration of what was too vivid to be chalked up to phantom residuals: the stroking sensation, as if with a will of its own, still at a full gallop—rippling ass cheeks ravenous enough, in fact, to be self-harming. Surely it would pull the heartstrings, gore the pericardium (hence the pet name “Pericardium Piercer”), of any man to feel the pistoning continue even after he has ceased all hip movement. And then when you factor in not just that a dancing star had suddenly turned on, but also the evidence of its blue-giant luminosity: the voice, the cry, the raw “Oh Daddy I feel it!”—come on! Had God set things up differently, Father Peady knew he would have made a baby then and there.
It might have been in the heat of the rut that the soul-mate conviction seared into Father Peady’s mind. But sex was only the antechamber. The vibrational resonance of ecstatic souls exceeded the vibrational resonance of ecstatic hips and all its shit-smeared bedsheets. With Georgie came a mammalian peace Father Peady had brushed against before, only it seemed as if in some prenatal past predating language— a womb-suspended peace of amniotic hush, a mother-suckling peace he could no more name than could the grown cat in its hesitation before a human nipple: epicenter of homecoming echoes, echoes of furry warmth and musky milk that cannot but summon biscuit kneading. Being with Georgie, his youth-tooth cravings completely vanished. Georgie provided him that cliché completeness. There was new pep in his step and yet it did not come with the usual wandering eye. Georgie was no phase. He was the end of the maze, the astral terminus to desire.
Any layer of pullback in Father Peady's admission of sorrow to God in those early days could be chalked up to that conviction. That pullback, it should be noted, did not entail pullback from God. Quite the contrary, in fact. Just like when it came to working Georgie's clamped pipe (which sometimes Father Peady would completely exit in a tease to Georgie's "Daddy don't stop," the veiny erection too locked in for even the sight of his dear mother's beheading by steak knife to wilt), the pullback—a sharpening retreat—preceded a deeper plunge. For the more he and Georgie sank into a bliss of cohabitation, the more his faith in God intensified. Providence, not perversion (or even if perversion)—the hand of God grew closer than ever before, close enough to seem the very palpating hand that delivered stern cough-it-up slaps to testicles as they contorted in climax. The transcendent arbiter, the distant abstraction of Aquinian proofs, resolved into what it had been all along: an immanent architect of jubilee, a sculptor of fates so intimate that Father Peady could feel the chisel rasping his spine. Georgie, all things considered, could never be a sin—not when the whole design careened toward this.
Only they fully grasped the onion-like depth of their connection—the all-too-human complex of frictions and devotions most outsiders will stuff fingers in their ears to drown out (and for the same reason the Greeks covered their eyes to the glaring similarities between themselves and the so-called barbarians: to preserve the myth of superiority, of being fully human). Let outsiders speculate. They have, and will, continue to speculate—spinning their judgments into doomsday-sized yarns around dinner tables, just as they did with Mildred and Richard Loving. All their demonizing gossip, although wildly out of touch with the reality of such a loving household (let alone with the reality of humankind, as seen by Darwin not by Disney), does succeed at least in zooming in (with Hubble precision) upon their own anxiety—ultimately, a death anxiety—from which that very demonizing gossip functions, often more and more feebly with each passing year, to distract them.
Words here should neither be minced nor sugarcoated. However subject to challenges and criticisms, however much scrutiny could bruise it (and even maim it with prison sentences)—the relationship between Georgie and Father Peady was profound in love. It would have been fine even if it were merely a loin-centered erotic mentorship of the time of Socrates. But it was much more than that, veering beyond eros and philia into storge and even agape territories. Rather than staying some George Michael deal (“♪ I will be your father figure . . . your preacher-teacher . . . put your tiny hands in mine ♪”), it quickly became a home of love as nurturing and emotional as it was selfless and spiritual. More power balanced than all the stone-throwers might ever let themselves even imagine, home and hearth—and yes, there was a literal hearth (around which the two would read together nearly every night)—echoed the familiar tropes of standard domesticity—only with some of the surface-level twists common in age-gap relationships of the homosexual variety (like in the case of the magician James Randi and his thirty-three-years-younger Deyvi Pena): Georgie managed household duties, ensuring that the quiet machinery of daily life ticked steadily under his care, while Father Peady burrowed into research (oftentimes more than ass, no matter how high Georgie lifted it); they took trips to Europe, wandering art museums where Father Peady encouraged Georgie’s budding appreciation for the classical and Renaissance masters; the priest controlled finances (at least early on), but doled out an allowance mostly spent on books and painting supplies; they shared intellectual pursuits, Father Peady nudging Georgie to read philosophy and theology; there were fights (as in any relationship), but the fights were almost always too vanilla to write home about (Father Peady grumbling about Georgie’s lack of structure and his understandable loose edges; Georgie snapping back about Father Peady’s authoritarian tones or his lack of spontaneity).
Well before the slow erosion of desire and the soft encroachments of routine completely cooled the fuck-sleep-fuck-eat-fuck-sleep steam (and its sleazy aroma of fermented goat cheese, cuminey scalp sebum, barn-hay manure, and glandular musk on a straight-up burnt-tire-burnt-clutch bed of excessive mechanical friction), Georgie became like the woman of the house. For obvious reasons (although having nothing, or at least little, to do with his weight), he could not be the arm candy he wanted to be. But he got what he wanted behind closed doors at least. 1990 had yet to finish and yet the boy had accrued, not even a month after moving in, a Sega Genesis with all the latest games (not just the Altered Beast that came with it, but also Road Rash and Hardball and other hit cartridges). Nest featherings were the least of it, though. Georgie ruled the roost like a woman: “No basketball with other boys!" And if other boys seemed to show signs of being drawn in by Father Peady's newfound bounce and banter, Georgie demanded it be shut down: “And I want to be there when you tell him"—his voice delivered with a territorial heat that Father Peady soon learned, despite how rarely the issue came up, could be settled with some bedroom bullying like the gag times of old (“Don't want me wrecking his little throat like this?" he might mutter, although too much to himself to offend Georgie).
Were this all shifted ahead a few decades, peer pressure and Tumblr-era incentives likely would have had Georgie believing he was born in the wrong body. Georgie, for instance, did not simply like to—as the later lingo would have it—“pop that ass.” He also liked to pop the pimples on Father Peady’s back, a chimp-reminiscent ritual Father Peady gave into even though the milky images soured his stomach all the more when paired with the lemon juice of Georgie’s doting glee. Organizing and cataloging Father Peady’s sprawling collection of letters and theological papers, assisting with transcriptions of Latin texts, compiling bibliographies for his work on Lewis and Tolkien, typing out drafts of sermons and essays—Georgie had his prostate-stroking fingers deep in the delicate plumbing of Father Peady's work, as if he were one of those wives who so needed to see her husband's genius bare fruit that cheerleading devotion could seem at times like henpecking control: “Get anywhere on the project today?" and “You need to keep to a writing schedule" and “This thing isn't going to write itself" and “You have to watch that you don’t lose momentum.” “Get anywhere on the project today?" “Get anywhere on the project today?" “Get anywhere on the project today?" It is crucial to say (if only to fight back against gut-level hangups that would twist their love into some scoliotic circus freak), this clockwork loop—no, not once did it nag Father Peady in that skin-crawling way of flies swarming your food. It nagged, at worst, in that it’s-good-to-be-loved way of restless cats curling around your feet, hopping on your lap as you try to eat—an enclosing warmth no good person could swat away without immediately apologizing out loud, in hope that the dulcet tones of sorrow would reach home even though the spoken language could not.
The point is that, however much our Disney-fattened sensibilities would demand this man’s destruction (or “cancelation,” in the witch-hunt lingo of today), it was a real relationship marked by deep love and ferocious devotion. They seemed made for each other, however grim the inevitable logic that married them. Father Peady might have been silently critical of the spoon-inversion move Georgie would do when savoring ice cream, yes. But he did not harbor bitterness about the continued weight gain or the many other quirks—even if on their own as innocuous as any given drip of Chinese water torture—that might have driven someone else to the brink: the no-matter-the-season plumber’s crack; the near-fermented tang tucked in Georgie’s fat folds; the eye-watering punch of roadkill decay that emanated, in near technicolor green, from Georgie’s catacombic belly button; the open-mouthed mastication, loud as livestock feeding time; the snoring that could rattle the drywall; the spitting forth of fingernails, toenails too, in a shameless arc of zero regard no matter whose house (as if even the mega crescent from the big toe, landing like a white exclamation mark, was too diminutive to count); the maniacal laughter during orgasm, feral (especially coupled with his tendency to pee); the bottomless obsession with video games at the expense of household chores.
Father Peady’s tongue alone tells us enough about the holiness of his acceptance. The tongue did not merely graze the necrotic crust of Georgie’s extreme innie. No, it wallowed there, muddying matters, as if reveling—with an understandable squint—in the forensic filth of Georgie’s erogenous zone—this drunken link to his mother being his key spot (after, of course, the remarkable depths of his colon: just short of that first major bend). But even the few of these features that did not count as a give-me-more turn on were positives for Father Peady at least in one sense: they were the grooves of Georgie’s fingerprint. If we bracket off the intuitive gut wrench that once (not to long ago) had us dry heaving at the sight of interracial swimming pools, how could a Hallmark-channel “Awwww” fail to leave our mouths in a sigh of envy?
Father Peady might have raised an eyebrow at some of Georgie’s activism. But no matter the pursuit, Father Peady funded him with little hesitation. Long after Peady’s grueling battle with cancer, Georgie continued to speak of him with undiluted affection and a gratitude so full-bodied it swelled in his voice (sometimes even cracking it with tears). Both saw one another as immense sources of strength. They were each other’s fortresses, their ribcages carrying the weight of the other. Grooming played its part in their love—just as do the various manipulative tactics when it comes to securing a second date: flattery (“You have such a unique way of looking at things”); makeup (eyeliner to widen the eyes and plumping lipstick to signal the fat and fertile vulva); perfumery (subtle woodsmoke to trigger subconscious associations of safety or home); behavioral mirroring (leaning in when the other person does or subtly adopting their speech cadence); sharing vulnerabilities (“But really I work so hard because I struggle, to be honest, with feeling like I’m not enough”); paying for the bill (“It’s no biggie for me”); scarcity framing (“I don’t have much free time”); controlled mystery (“I’d actually prefer not to go into the details here in public”); proving social worth (“My friends say I’m the one who always plans the trips”); compliment fishing (“I’m terrible at first dates”); prolonged pauses (holding eye contact just a moment too long before answering, to create tension); name dropping (“I didn’t see the sun for a week when I interned at the Met”). Of course, grooming played its part here, just as it did with Céline Dion and René Angélil. But the whole “fault” debate misses the marrow. How can you be faulted for how you have been groomed to be? We cannot be faulted for how we are as a result of the slow grinding hand of evolution, which groomed us (but not jellyfish) to need sleep and groomed us (but not jellyfish) to crave fatty sweets. Georgie, likewise, cannot be faulted for what he likes. And yes, what he likes is not just the sweet-nothing abstractions but even the blunt-force concretia: the big dick, the hot stench of older-man halitosis—the entire hirsute package.
They did sleep in separate bedrooms as a personal preference and also as a pragmatic measure (a layer of plausible deniability should prying eyes ever turn inward). What about their sex life? Let us not kid ourselves. That is what we are really here for. How could we not be, considering our moral-panic-prone feelings around the subject: we slaughter cows with factory efficiency, but God forbid we help our pining dog get off with a compassionate hand (in what might amount not only to a momentary release from its life of house-bound depression). So if only to satisfy that inner voyeur we so love to deny (to our peril), let us zoom in—although, truth be told, there is not much to see. Perhaps the silver lining to the inevitable let down, though, is that—for all the preceding efforts to establish the normalcy of their situation (and thereby carve out at least a narrow safe space where their arrangement might be examined with some semblance of fairness)—the tidal pull of bias likely is too strong for most to resist swirling in the rapeyist works (peanut butter, fudge, cookie dough) into what is in truth mere vanilla. For even though carnal intensity nosedived as their bond deepened beyond the flesh, a skilled enough editor—splicing, rearranging with an executioner’s precision—could make it look like a decadent rocky road of damnation.
The door to Georgie's room might creak open now and then in the still hours—the black humanoid frame, backlit by hallway orange, casting a stretched shadow over dirty clothes on the circular throw rug. With the help of what transpired that day (a fight unresolved and a silence where a “goodnight" should have been, on the rough hand, or a good report card and some headway on the Lewis-Tolkien correspondence, on the soft hand), Georgie could tell—his early upbringing having attuned him to the most diffusive of subtleties—the style of what was in store. The projection of the Korous—its heady ferality, even if deep into its dry down, reaching from the threshold if the man was in a heat—filled in gaps. The cadence of the footfalls—sometimes the hesitant creep of an “umble” Uriah Heep, other times the bowlegged clomp of a “Hey boy” Mr. T—refined the prediction. What tone did the voice have—soft and high or resinous and low? Was it a school night? Was the man's breath queasy with his fuck-a-school-night bourbon? Did he go the route of “It’s okay” and the protracted (and absurdly unwarranted) “Shhh”? Did he attempt to shake the boy awake with a sorry-to-disturb demeanor that meant he would wait a few seconds before shaking again? Was there the tender thumbing of the lips, then of the neck hollow, from the edge of the bed, which (especially on a school night) more often than not meant—sometimes to Georgie's disappointment (although nothing a little faked startling awake could not fix)—that the prick was only going to get himself off (no move-that-ass-over-let-daddy-takeover manhandling of silence even in the ending fury)? By such signs Georgie could actually palpate, if not empathize with, the needs in play. Did Father Peady want him pliant like ear cartilage, pretending to stay asleep, while he readied the blasphemous rose bud with a Vaseline finger? Did he want the boy to match his lascivious heat, stirring suddenly awake with a desperate thirst to please—perhaps even presenting the man with the slut reality, which would lock any middle-aged erection into teenaged rigidity, that he had already lubed the hole on the fat chance of a nightcap? Or did Father Peady want him to pretend to be afraid, so as to playact the father who twists the son’s fear of being fucked by his father—a fear, at least in the first session, completely projected by the father—as a twisted-but-spicy pretense to show the boy something to be afraid about?
To allow us to see the reality of their situation (and not just through the usual lens of outrage) certain clarifications seem necessary. First, these fear scenarios were comparatively rare. Second, and most importantly, they were theatre. Just like the whole pretending-to-be-asleep routine (where for realism’s sake Georgie would keep slack enough in the face that, as Father Peady pounded away, his teeth would clack as if he were asleep in a meth-man’s off-road truck), the whole afraid routine was an instinctive form of roleplay to keep spice in the relationship. The shrinking back, Georgie knew (indeed, each knew the other knew), stoked Father Peady’s savagery. It could come with different nuances (different riffs on the general roles): “I’ll give you something to be afraid about” or “I’ll show you what happens when a little boy is afraid to get fucked by Daddy.” It could even come, rare as it was, with a table-turning responsibility-shifting mind-game: “There’s only one way to handle a filthy sicko pig who thinks his own father wants to fuck!” But even here, especially as time went by, such words were more understood than spoken—at best muttered, as if the speaker were ashamed to sully the soul connection with such kinky carnality.
Sparklers and roman candles were the main fireworks, not the multi-shot chrysanthemums and willows of old. True, anniversary nights could see more fire. Georgie, proving that not all firecrackers are petite, came closer than ever on these nights—if only through body language—to spilling the beans on his gang-bang fantasy: keeping his hands pinned behind his back (hands he put there himself) and glucking his tonsils around a headboard-braced dildo (his face a gag rictus of tears) while Father Peady, both common-courtesy hands busy (one below, sausage fingers adding even more girth; one above, spit-shining Georgie’s implacable little stiffy), worked his hips at that spot-smashing up-angle (a brown halo of shit mucus, that slanderous inversion of the white halo of pussy mucous, collecting near the hilt like a filthy beach’s scuzzy tideline)—worked and worked those scholarly hips, hair soaked with sweat, until the buildup became unbearable enough to inspire at least a limp-wristed suggestion that a rape scenario was playing out: “Seems you want it after all, huh?” The night-heat doorway numbers, on the other hand—those were much more frequent. But even these could be considered rare, not to mention lasting no longer than three minutes on average. Normally Father Peady would come in and it would be more clinical, mainly a matter of getting off. And so half asleep Georgie would shimmy to help Father Peady pull down his pajama bottoms (the Ghostbusters 2 set his favorite) and maybe hold an ass cheek open to assist, moaning or saying “Ow” to fine-tune things (manipulate matters) into the right angle and rhythm and depth. Most of the time Georgie did what most of us would do when jostled in the night like this, especially on a school night: just trying to stay tethered to sleep as much as he could (fat chance, literally, given Father Peady’s girth) and hoping in the back of his mind that Father Peady finishes on his ass instead of in his ass because, even though Father Peady would always (and quite tenderly) wipe the Boston ooze from the hole (often with deferential “sorrys” about being “a bother”), the boy would have to go to he bathroom anyway, just like any normal woman. But as cold as this hope might sound (one most outsiders would eagerly misread as a cry for help, as proof of some unspoiled core beneath the groomed layers), Georgie would himself grind down (a tender callback to the basketball days) and clamp his sphincter and stroke in a miniature fury come the point of no return—the desire to please, the desire period (jostled from the deep slumber of childhood, as it needed to be), outweighing the cost of cleanup.
Given the lens of outrage (“No child wants this!”) through which most filter the details of the situation, given that the lens seems almost as rigid and inescapable an apriority as Kant’s space and time, it becomes important (if only as a counterbalance) to lay bare Georgie’s needs in the relationship. Those needs, nasty (not to bury the lead), might have bloomed ahead of schedule. And yes, perhaps he did not ask for them anymore than any of us—flung into existence with preordained appetites—ask to crave breast milk. But they sure are there—raging at times (no hint of revulsion), like that no-tutor-necessary bloodlust Georgie and Father Peady watched flicker across the big screen once: the little girl (Kirsten Dunst), fangs bared and eyes black with hunger, awakening into the life of a vampire. No, it is more than just an embodiment of the ancient child-lover maxim, or at least that maxim as seen through fondle-fixated eyes: “They say she’s too young, I should’ve waited / but she's a big girl (wow) when she's stimulated." There were nights, especially early on in the cohabitation (middle school, before the cinematic release of Interview with a Vampire), when Georgie—untouched, uncoaxed (no slow-dance seduction after dinner; no hock-massaging grind from behind while scrubbing dishes)—was the one whose hallway-light shadow stretched, with the creak of a door, into Father Peady’s room.
Now, why younger Georgie was more prone to night creeping than his older self is not what those peering through the fogged lens of outrage will insist: “Because when he finally got older, he was less vulnerable to this twisted fucko’s control!" No, this was not a question of newfound agency wrenching him free. This was a matter of instinct—of evo-devo emotional rhythms, of that delicate wiring where need and response calibrate one another like a call and its echo. Even the most surgical phrasing, even the most jarring exclamation of red-pill precision, is unlikely to scratch that lens (let alone shatter it). But a fat chance is still a chance and, even were it not, truth is truth—something that no belief, however loudly repeated in a self-soothing corner of knee-hugged rocking, can vanquish. And as for the truth of it, rarely did these night creeps culminate in the stretch—that plunger stretch—Georgie was hunting for. That was a lesson learned early. And more than just schooling him in the pleasures of self-fisting, it schooled him in the nature of his man. His man—his lion, although one growing heavier in the bones by the year—wanted to be the hunter. Being cast as the prize, rather than as the predator, did not just fail to rouse him. No, it often knocked him clean out of the mood altogether!
“Thank God for the small graces,” the lens-people might insist in what seems more a snake hiss than a sigh. But they need to hold their horses, rein in their relief. Evolution rarely stalls for sentiment. Over eons those early anteaters with longer tongues (an asset that gave them an edge in lapping up ants and termites from narrow tunnels) were more likely than their short-tongued counterparts to spread their genes, spreading and spreading until the point today where a tongue of “grotesque” length has become the run-of-the-mill norm. The same goes over the early 1990s: those instincts in Georgie least likely to conflict with Father Peady’s pursuer-role as “Daddy” (instincts that maximized the odds of securing what he was after, that ever-elusive stretch) became predominant in the boy’s soul, growing and growing until by 1995 (at the latest) he had become a “grotesque” master of what we might call “feminine wiles.”
Georgie learned early on, in other words, that directness—lunging, pleading (“Fuck me good, Daddy”)—would not get his itches scratched. He had to coax, to lure. He had to make the taking feel like giving. So he honed the passive manipulations that kept the lion circling his den: fake nodding off while they watched a movie, slack mouth—full of not-to-waste drool, like a toddler on a long car ride—plopping right down into Father Peady’s crotch; or grinding his man, his priest, from the little spoon position in bed, exhaling bunny-rabbit moans and sighs whose every iteration grew louder (as if Georgie were a Victorian woman performing an overwrought fainting spell); or sitting in his lap, adjusting until it meant something; or fingering his own ass so that, in a masterful stroke of weaponizing scent, the air—reinvigorated with every hand gesture—would steer the home-from-work nose (cock, finger, mouth, anything) to the cornucopia of funk spilling from shorts (Father Peady’s own) that, on Georgie at least, could only be called “Daniel Dukes”; or offering a massage to help him unwind from a long day; or feigning wide-eyed ignorance about certain sexual matters so as to provoke “lessons” or, better yet, “corrections” (a move that all-too-quickly became obsolete because you cannot hide a freak for long, even behind the innocuous package of a young porker); or dropping mentions of another boy—or, better yet, another man (a teacher even)—came onto him; or, when subtlety needed big reinforcement, masturbating—pegged up and everything—in areas where Father Peady was prime to walk in; or leaving traces of arousal, such as slightly damp underwear “forgotten" in the hallway (perhaps even saving them up over the week and then festooning them all over the place like a breadcrumb trail of desperation); or complimenting his man, his breadwinner, so as to trigger dominant instincts (running a hand over his forearm, murmuring about how safe he feels); or asking, in what amounts to the trump card not to be overused, to watch the old camcorder footage (“Please, let’s put it on!”) from back when Father Peady could pick the boy up at least for a few seconds of pump action if only with the help of a wall.
The populace demands the release of overkill comeuppance—a punishment so grand, so obliterating, that it purges (while also blinding them to) their own lurking filth. But in what proves a horror perhaps even for those “sickos” who found their catharsis in all the sloppy camcorder footage (and, by the way, the overlap between the sickos and the bloodthirsty populace is greater than we care to admit), domestic life simply dragged on in a stagnant equilibrium of all-too-relatable boredom—neither the loads of gooey depravity that would sate (temporarily) our closeted core of sex mania nor a downfall of triumphant reckoning that would sate (temporarily) our closeted core of bloodthirst (bloodthirst especially for those, ill-mannered to autistic proportions, who draw attention to the closet), only taco nights and TV sitcoms (days blurring into one another). Despite Georgie’s adult paranoia about FBI snoopery (one of the few ruptures in the uncinematic tedium), and despite the counterfactual tableau of detectives poring (and even pouring) over the footage with engorged clits and cocks, no one has seen the tape—tucked now, no VCR hooked up to conjure its ectoplasmic ghosts, between Bataille’s The Story of the Eye and his philosophical treatise Eroticism, Laclos’s Les Liaisons Dangereuses laid our horizontally on top of the trio like a lid on a coffin.
Most will kick and scream in resistance, flailing against each detail as if drowning in it. Even those who do accept the truth will still reach for the vocabulary of tragedy, casting mere domestic normalcy as “heartbreaking” and “dreadful”—or perhaps, if they wish to cloak their judgment in the guise of dispassionate distance, as “a fragile stasis.” Look with fair eyes, however. Nearly everything, save for logical absolutes and brute necessities, exists in a kind of fragile stasis. Even so, surely the most stable pockets within the creaturely realm of flux would be those where love reigns. And love is what Georgie and Father Peady had—a love, stretching over decades, that could make even the most insidious dig-a-hole-only-to-fill-that-hole routine worthwhile. These were not merely two people who found “peace in their arrangement,” which would be fine enough given the existential predicament: born this way, out of stardust and for who knows why, only to die like the sun itself—a steady flow of Heraclitean impermanence. These were two people who found each other, however deluded they might have been to believe it (but believe it they did), as if after a separation spanning unfathomable star cycles.
Questions remain. Did Georgie, for example, ever age out of the role? The answer depends on how you look at it. The Daddy dynamic always held firm. But the two did grow alongside one another (more an H than an A), just like Randi and Deyvi. They grew until the hour Father Peady died. Not the faggy prostitute that after-school-special minds steeped in telenovela drama—in short, USA minds—would expect but rather an environmental canvasser by day and a painter by night, Georgie spends his days resurrecting their life in brushstrokes: from memory, from old photographs, from glancing at the shelf and reliving the felony footage. The boy—now a bearded man—has staged underground art exhibits (if a cluster of greasy weirdos qualifies as such), raising money for his pet cause: the North American Man-Boy Love Association (NAMBLA), an organization that Georgie learned about through the howls of its most famous member (Ginsberg).
The NAMBLA issue had become, in the years before Father Peady’s death, a point of contention. Georgie was out and proud as a member. An old-school type (like those dated gays who saw no need to legalize marriage, insisting it was best left a private matter), Father Peady warned against it. “What’s the point of all this? It’ll only damage your reputation. Be smart.” That was what he would tell Georgie. And although Georgie worked largely in secret on NAMBLA causes (respecting Father Peady’s wish that he not defend the organization even in private, even as a mere issue of civil liberties), there were still moments of friction. Sometimes, in semi-senile fits of authoritarianism, Peady would mutter: “Do we really need the freedom to talk about everything, Georgie?” On the surface, they stopped seeing eye to eye on several matters (personally and politically). But such division and such statements against freedom of expression, as well as many of the other hurtful jabs about Georgie’s “colorful” and “flamboyant” wardrobe (he liked to get Georgie ties and sports coats for gifts, pieces Georgie would never wear)—all of it seemed less like true division and more like the outgrowth of a deeper issue: namely, that Father Peady wanted to protect Georgie (wanted what was best for him, like a parent). Father Peady had spent a lifetime guarding his own reputation with careful precision. It unsettled him to watch Georgie play so loose and fast with his. “You know,” he would sometimes say (watching Georgie flush with the fever of activism), “it saddens me deeply, deeply Georgie, to see you tarnish your reputation. Let it go. Why can’t you just let it go? Does no one care about their reputation anymore?” Georgie knew that when Father Peady sighed about “the extinction of standards,” about how “no one gives a crap anymore,” he had in mind not only examples of the “newfangled turn” toward planned obsolescence (“Maytag washers—metal, not Chinese plastic—used to be built to last a damn lifetime!”), but especially something that bugged him most of all: how Yves Saint Laurent butchered Kouros, the juice in the new white-shouldered bottle—“It’s completely castrated!”—neutered of its silver-shouldered savagery, its sour-civet bite (camphoraceous urinal cakes dissolved down by countless baseball-stadium streams) now reduced to a wan ghost of itself. “Please, for me, just let it go!”
Georgie did not let it go. George ramped his efforts up, in fact—albeit putting the pedal to the metal only once the obliterative dose of hospice morphine ensured that Father Peady’s piercing eyes would no longer hover in hallways and over dinner tables to startle with that question, that question unspoken with too much love not to cause hesitation: “Don’t you know the difference, my sweet Georgie, between a lovable fool and a certifiable one?” Did his efforts dishonor his one and only? Such sleep-disrupting questions grew quieter as Georgie’s personality tapered into an eating-sleeping-shitting apologist for pedophilia, a mission that left him little time even to paint (a therapeutic activity that always centered him and refreshed his perspective like a good night of sleep). His activism had mainly taken a literary form. At least in that sense he honored Father Peady, who never did get to finish his book.
The NAMBLA Bulletin, and later the NAMBLA Blog, became Georgie’s primary avenue of publication. His titles alone, never mind the content, were provocative enough to have Father Peady gator-rolling in his grave—titles like: “All the Better for Being ‘Molested’” (reprinted as “The Age-Gap Gift”), “FBI Entrapment of NAMBLA Members,” “Child Nudes Throughout Classic Art (and the Vatican): Making Lust Socially Acceptable,” “Teaching in the Bedroom: Socratic Pedagogy,” “A Bedtime Smooch is the Beginning of Pedophagy” (a nod to Bataille’s famous “a kiss is the beginning of cannibalism”), and even “A Defense of the Moral Permissibility of Child-Adult Sexual Activity” (his latest, and most buttoned-up, work in progress). But however much the image of Father Peady spinning in his coffin faded in both frequency and fervor over the years, it would be hard—even for a saint or a bodhisattva—to claim that Georgie’s loyalty wavered. “A family is people and a family is love—that’s a family.” And Georgie kept his family intact, even through death—and no, not just in the loose sense of a widow who makes a daily pilgrimage to the graveside between back-blown orgasms (literally shitting, just like in child labor, in that roach-on-its back leg wriggle in the chokehold of another man). Georgie’s love was too intense, like an anchorite’s for Jesus, ever to be unfaithful—yes, even in the wam-bam sense of a one-night slam, a sad grasp for back-alley warmth. With the few but tight connections he has made in the NAMBLA community, it would have been easy to stray into other arms and sit on other fists—kinky, and desperate for connection, as that community tends to be. But he never did. And he never will. He sets the table for two. He kisses the photo of Father Peady each night before bed. He keeps the linens crisp, the study undisturbed, the place settings unshifted—as if expecting his man home at any moment. He sleeps next to the mattress indentation no one—not even himself—is allowed to fill.
The bigger question, though, is how Georgie himself looks back on the relationship. For all his pedophilia activism and for all his grateful love of a man nearly four times his age, Georgie holds that the courtship with Father Peady was mishandled—indeed, that by his own standards (which he has been working out, chiseling down, in his recent article) they went about things in an ethically questionable way. In a healthy society—a society that did not banish man-boy love full stop, but instead judged each situation as distinct and irreducible to blanket prohibition—there would be, Georgie insists to any NAMBLA acquaintance who will listen, an infrastructure in place to make sure any power differential is not weaponized for exploitative or malicious ends. In what makes him so conservative on the pedophilia issue that he has alienated most other NAMBLA members (some even seeing him as a traitor, as might NRA lifers when one of their own stresses the importance of psychological screenings before gun ownership), Georgie is like one of those trans apologists whose extreme caution concerning gender-reassignment surgery means a bar too high for most flesh-and-blood people (as opposed to mere hypothetical people) ever to meet—a bar nearly insurmountable for teens: extended psychological evaluation, multiple years of real-life experience in the identified gender, comprehensive assessments to rule out physical or neurological conditions that could be behind the dysphoria, proof of long-term social and economic stability, approval from independent panels, and so on. Georgie advocates, for example, for parental oversight and even third-party oversight when it comes to adult-child sexual activity—a safeguard that, while technically not always needed, Georgie says is ultimately for the best insofar as, for all its invasive downsides, “it allows a practice that is downright ignorant to rule out in principle, and yet while still prioritizing the protection of the most vulnerable.”
So yes, Georgie’s position is far more nuanced than his MBL lifestyle and his NAMBLA membership might suggest—especially to our western minds, dulled by a pitchfork ideology of moral hangups and anti-intellectualism (to say nothing of the empty calories of pop music and fast food). That is to say, while pedophilic desires should be on the table for discussion (much damage comes from repression) and while in theory there are situations in which such relationships could be morally permissible, in actual practice—even when we do away with “unthinking heavy-handed ageism and sex shame hysterics often behind the pedophilia taboo”—few candidate relationships would check all the necessary boxes of moral permissibility.
Georgie does acknowledge that he is one of the rare cases where he was more of a willing participant than even his pursuer (and groomer) could fathom. Georgie does acknowledge that he was much older internally than his biological age (fully capable of informed decisions). Georgie does acknowledge that only when the romance began did he start the long process of piecing himself together from the wreckage of early homelife. And yet, despite all this, Georgie thinks it would have been best—however unsexy—if a third-party had been involved: someone to enforce a window of nonsexual contact and then to check in—probation-officer style—once the relationship got hot and heavy.
The point should not be undersold. Indeed, Georgie often quips—in what really drives a wedge between him and mainstream NAMBLA advocates—that the so-called “age of consent” (at least if there is going to be one at all) should be raised to at least twenty-five. “A twelve-year-old a hundred years back was,” in Georgie’s words, “often more mature—more capable of making informed decisions, more independent—than a twenty-five-year-old of today. For look at where we are, if you can bear the shame. Excessive social media use has crippled face-to-face interaction, the crucible where social skills and emotional maturity are forged. How could maturity not be delayed when problem-solving skills and self-reliance never get a chance to bloom under the excessive watering of helicopter parenting? What chance is there for a child to overcome their infantile entitlement and develop the motivation to strive for excellence (or at least independence) in a world where everyone is good enough for a gold trophy? And tied up with all this, in a looping complication of cause and effect, is the most insidious poison of them all, seeping into everything like black mold: safe-space ideology. What hope is there for emotional resilience when even college students must be, and have long gotten used to being (in our insane new norm), shielded from unsettling words and ideas? Can we truly call a twenty-five-year-old an adult—mentally, emotionally, spiritually—when they have been indoctrinated by the unholy trinity: (a) victimology culture, where being offended—especially if you lack ‘colonizer optics’—makes you right; (b) my-truth culture, where feelings—especially if you lack ‘colonizer optics’—are surefire guides to truth; (c) cancel-culture, where even professors whose textbooks offend you—especially if you lack ‘colonizer optics’ and especially especially if those professors have ‘colonizer optics’—can be terminated without due process?”
The main reason Georgie stands by the claim (if only half-heartedly or to make a point) that the age of consent should be raised is not that he believes young people cannot give consent. As with animals (dogs, horses, any creature attuned to its body), even young children can give behavioral consent (leaning into touches rather than recoiling, making sounds of security and enjoyment rather than of fear and distress, juicing rather than drying, continuing to stroke with giggles rather than going off to play with legos, and so on)—bodily cues that, given other conditions (such as always being able to pull away whenever they want), constitute the difference between moral permissibility and moral violation. No, the main reason he stands by the raise-the-age claim is not only that we remain immature longer today (less independent, less capable of informed decision-making, less humble, more inclined to silence the truth, more marinated in bratty entitlement: “I’m a she, not a he!”), but also that we remain simultaneously terrified and obsessed with sex—sex being, perhaps more than ever, enshrouded in mystique and power. A TV breast glimpsed by children is a national scandal—yes, even among adults who nourish these same children with videogame gore and Mickey D happy meals (“♪ bada ba ba ba ♪”). A penis brushing against a thigh in a locker room could leave a boy—scarred for life, wondering if he is gay—caught in a relationship-disrupting cycle of obsessive rumination, intrusive thoughts gnawing at him perhaps enough to result ultimately in God-Hates-Fags murder—the sort of tied-up-to-a-fence-like-a-scarecrow-and-beaten-to-brainstem-liverwurst-pulp slaughter we saw with Matthew Shepard: “Can’t stand no fucking flaming faggot fudgepacker!” Even suggesting that a C-sectioned infant's face be mushed into its mother's vulva (“Really get it in there”)—a microbiome-seeding practice that could shape its life trajectory more significantly than even school district, more significantly than most in our anti-scientific culture of moral hangups could imagine—would get you looked at as a madman invoking some Satanic ritual, instead of what you really are: an informed citizen who feels a communitarian pull toward ensuring the best for future generations, toward giving the youth something more substantial than Baby Einstein lullaby CDs (and the various other goods on sale).
Contrast this to some tribe yet to experience the saving grace of Christ—and all His emphasis on sexual modesty and body shame. Take Cambodia’s Krueng tribe, where adults build “love huts” for kids to explore the gooey details of their sexuality without shame—even if that means ass-to-mouth. Take the Himba of Namibia, who—despite all the witch-doctor jokes Westerners like to make—treat genitals without our hysterical voodoo of cooties and corruption. Take some “backwards” culture where, for example, the peeping Tom—caught in an act of voyeuristic masturbation—elicits not trauma but communal amusement. The napping woman hit by the man’s squirt (applaudable distance from the window) does not collapse into the Western archetype of eternal victimhood. She does not find herself hurled into a lifetime of cPTSD therapy, where the goal is not to “get over it”—for that would be “a patriarchal underestimation of her traumatized lived experience”—but rather to provide some breathing room in her forever shell of victimhood or, to quote one popular victim advocate, “to widen the living space of her lifelong prison cell.” No, the foreigner—we might as well call her “extraterrestrial” since western victimology now spreads across the globe, like TikTok, deep into even remote jungle enclaves—curses the creepy man as if he were no more than some garden-thieving pest: “Looka dis fool here!” She does not crumble into a fetal ball, later to be coaxed up by her gay-male “bestie” who—especially given the joy connoted by his neon pink shorts and matching cap—knows to restrain his usual fagulous chorus of nasal sass (“Giiiirl,” “WUUURK!” “ObSessed,” “PeriodT”) and instead to take on a more maternal tone (“You have to eat, Hun”)—heartened, however, merely to rock in a corner, SJW tea mug between her thumb-holed sweater sleeves (bound now for a life of double-scarved fragility, unable even to set foot in Starbucks without her helper pet). The alien woman, instead, does what would bring tears to western eyes, at least to the eyes of those who—for all the perfect-just-as-you-are messaging—still retain enough light inside themselves to heave at the Nietzsche-prophesized sight of the hyperventilating Jell-O humans have become. She chases him away, broom in hand, as her sisters double over in laughter, all of them clearly yet to have learned that they should feel ruined; clearly yet to have received, in other words, the new gospel of victimology, which is upon consideration likely just a spinoff of the old last-shall-be-first gospel (the gospel that valorized the victim and made the downtrodden the morally superior inheritors of the earth): “Da man have such heat he needa go wit da goat! Go with da goat ya damn fool!”—the air filled with sober mirth and resilience (embodied, somehow, by the man’s wake of dust) rather than with the terror and malice of a West so well-kempt, so terminally cushioned, that its people, its halflings, seem eager (eager as prison inmates) to conjure up drama (trauma drama) just to fend off the boredom that beckons the eye toward the unblinking existential void.
Especially if these two factors (our prolonged immaturity and our moral panic around sex) were changed, Georgie believes there could be instances of pedophilic sex that are morally permissible so long as some of the more universally applicable criteria for ethical action were met. If only to clarify nuance that can be difficult to keep straight, let us end with the first portion of his article, “A Defense of the Moral Permissibility of Child-Adult Sexual Activity.” Here, in his “Introductory Remarks,” he has the reader consider an array of cases, some where the sexual activity is morally permissible, others where it is morally impermissible. He talks about these in much more detail throughout the paper, using them as touchstones for responding to the main angles used to reject his thesis “the intuitive angle” (intuition says it is wrong), “the biblical angle” (the bible says it is wrong), “the natural law angle” (nature says it is wrong), “the child wellbeing angle” (it violates the child’s safety or autonomy or rights or humanity) “the adult wellbeing angle” (it violates the adults safety or autonomy or rights or humanity). Our where-they-are-now look into Georgie’s life does not require the nitty gritty. However, the “Introductory Remarks” section (last updated in 2020, thirty years after the main events of our tale) provides sufficient insight into his general thinking on the matter—and perhaps enough detail at least to leave open the possibility that he is not the monster we might like to think.
One word of caution before quoting the section in full: remember we are. We are neither in Cambodia nor Namibia. Our land is, in large part, still the sex-toxic land Georgie alludes to in the introduction, a land where sex is not only super-important but bad (and yet all the more animated and ubiquitous for that reason). It is all too easy in this land to reduce Georgie’s argumentation to an expression of his having been “groomed” and “abused” and “exploited” by Father Peady. Even if Georgie is lying to himself and he has been spiritually and emotionally gutted like a Halloween Pumpkin by father Peady in more ways than one (which up for debate in every sense aside from the one having to do with Father Peady’s tremendous girth), and even if Georgie’s chief motivation behind his paper is a sort of Stockholm cope to handle what he might think (like most of the rest of us in our land think) is the “unhandleable,” he could—shame as it is to have to say this—still be right. In a time where we have become such cretins of the mind that we think (self-defeatingly) that Hitler could have never held a correct view (“Because come on: It’s Hitler!”) or that the painting itself is bad merely because its painter fought pitbulls (or, God forbid, expected black people to abide by the white supremacist standards of punctuality, or deadnamed someone, or spoke over a trans voice, or so on), this point cannot be stressed enough. The viewpoint, and the arguments in support of the viewpoint, must be judged on their own—to use what we have made, in what amounts to our own death knell, a no-no word—“merits.”
Rare it is to find someone who would argue openly for the moral permissibility of child-adult sexual activity (CASA). The prevailing view is that CASA is immoral under all circumstances. One rationale has long been that CASA debases our special dignity as humans, tarnishes our privileged status as deliberative agents whose rationality frees us from the base instincts that puppeteer lower-order animals (who not only fornicate with their young but sometimes eat their young). In our rights-centric era (where we are less prone to use children as chimney sweeps and have them working full time at ten), this rationale has been reinforced by the notion that children have inherent moral worth and so should not be subject to indignities and cruelties. This way of looking at the matter is reflected in our language around pedophilic sex. Even textbooks and scientific articles, for all their pretense to objectivity, describe CASA with terms preloaded with negative connotations, varying the language depending on specific circumstances: “child sexual abuse,” “child molestation,” “statutory rape on a minor,” “sexual assault of a minor,” “child sexual offense,” “child sexual exploitation,” and so on.
I look at things with more nuance. I contend that under certain circumstances, even if next-to-impossible ever to meet in the world we find ourselves in, sexual activity with children is morally permissible. Especially when the wants and welfare and moral worth and autonomy of all parties are respected, especially when the interaction is voluntary and non-distressing and non-exploitative and mutually enjoyable and mutually opt-out-able, CASA is merely a benign form of nontraditional living. It is much more benign than, or at least as benign as, many popular stressful and damaging practices whose moral permissibility, despite being perpetrated upon “the most vulnerable” (children, animals) and often to their short-term discomfort and long-term detriment, largely remains unquestioned. Take the case of animals, for instance.
We groom dogs and horses to serve as our tools and playthings despite the pain, joint damage, and stress this inflicts—even go so far as to use whips and bullhooks on circus elphants so that they perform for our entertainment.
We castrate male animals (pigs, cows, horses), often without anesthesia, to curb aggression, enhance meat quality, or prevent breeding.
We declaw kitties and dock doggy tails and ears for reasons of aesthetics or convenience (despite risk of infection, behavioral changes, and loss of natural communication methods).
We force-feed ducks and geese (so we can get our foie gras), even though this invites esophageal trauma, liver disease, and extreme stress.
We confine calves, hens, and sows in tiny cages for their entire lives—yes, all to increase production efficiency and ultimately our profits.
We breed bulldogs, pugs, and Persian cats for extreme physical traits (flat faces, short legs, or so on) despite the breathing difficulties, joint problems, and chronic pain this can entail.
We kill minks, foxes, and crocodiles for fashion accessories (boots, bags, boas), often with methods like anal electrocution “to preserve fur integrity.”
We test cosmetics and chemicals on rabbits, mice, guinea pigs—eye-irritation tests, lethal-dose experiments, and so on.
We hunt animals for sport and trophies, not even needing their meat for sustenance.
We fondle their teats and vaginas to get them in the breeding mood while tied up to what are known as “rape racks”—all to maximize milk and meat production.
We ram electric rods up their rectums to produce reliable ejaculations, ignoring the rectal trauma and psychological distress (unless, of course, these injuries are negatively impacting the bottom line).
We put them through literal meat grinders and then onto our grills, billions of animals killed each year (too often with a lot of pain, to say nothing of the stress that often comes with transport).
Or, more relevantly, take the case of children.
We abort fetuses even at fifteen weeks, despite their having not only heartbeats and brain functions and ability to feel pain but also personhood with a rich potential future.
We piercing toddler ears without any consideration of their consent or their feelings later down the line.
We circumcise newborns, despite the pain and the deformity risk and (as in my case) the potential psychological impact (bitterness and anger) at having such a dramatic and irreversible surgery without considering the say-so of the victim.
We give intersexed infants medically-unnecessary surgeries to bring them into alignment with binary sex norms—surgeries that come with a host of risks (loss of sexual sensation, infertility, psychological distress, and potential misalignment with the gender identity later in life).
We give babies nonessential vaccines (neither mandated by law nor school), even low-efficacy ones that come with rare but life-altering or even deadly risks (like anaphylaxis or Guillain-Barré syndrome).
We soap and scrub and rinse their most private places, even when they clear do not want that or would rather do it themselves.
We force them to take medication for ADHD (sometimes even for mere competitive advantage), despite (a) the lack of certainty as to whether it will be beneficial and (b) the negative side effects that could be extreme (outweighing any benefits).
We tease them with butt pinches and kiss them on the mouth, even when they show resistance—indeed, running after them and scooping them up and dishing out a lot more smooches to mouth and bare belly and so on).
We hold them in place against their will and torture them with tickles, often in rather private places (like armpits).
We compel boys to sit in cramped desks for hours at school despite not only the obesity crises among US children but also the scientific evidence that boys better learn moving around.
We indoctrinate them—“because it is a parent’s right”—into narrow and stunting and superstitious and scary religious views that not only demonize other viewpoints and take extreme stances against nonconformity but also teach some rather deplorable and psychologically damaging things: demonic possession, eternal damnation, inherent sinfulness, sex shame, natural disasters as God’s punishment, female subservience, ridicule of science, exclusivity of salvation, apocalypse’s approach, and so on.
We subject ten-year-olds to the pain and discomfort and psychological stress of orthodontics—and potentially to all sorts of surgery-requiring impactions come the time of wisdom teeth—merely for the sake of beauty standards.
We groom kindergarteners to compete in beauty pageants (yes, with all the teeth-whitening—and sometimes even Botox—works), prioritizing aesthetics and competition over the child’s autonomy despite the potential harms: ridicule and bullying from peers; shame down the road, especially now that our culture—post JonBenét Ramsey—looks disfavorably on such pageants; subjection to objectifying and sexualizing gazes by adults, and thereby to increased risk of predatory attention; development of unhealthy eating habits to stay skinny; burns, bruising, and allergic reactions from various cosmetic procedures (tanning, rhinoplasty, mole removal, whitening, bikini waxing for early bloomers); sleep deprivation resulting from competitive schedules that can be too much for a child (who needs much more hours asleep than an adult); loss of all-important playtime for the same reason; repetitive strain injuries from excessive practice; body-image issues like obsession with appearance or dysmorphia; chronic stress over the pressure to perform; identity confusion between the child’s authentic self and the pageant persona in heavy makeup and elaborate costumes and wigs they see in the mirror; reinforcement of a toxic outlook according to which everything is competition and external appearance is what matters most; priming them for even more dangerous careers like prostitution where bodies, and how they shimmy and grind are commodities to be sold.
We severely restrict their diets according to our whims or our ideological beliefs, even at great risk of nutritional deficiency.
We take photos of them in minimal clothing (like at the beach) or during moments of physical vulnerability (like changing clothes) for family albums and even social media.
We administer puberty blockers at eight and hormone therapy at fourteen and surgery at fifteen—and this, yes, after a persistent grooming period where the “progressive” ideology and social-network of the well-meaning purple-haired lesbian couple “inadvertently” massages their adopted son Bongani to identify as a girl: praising his choices to do “non-masculine” things, like drawing at the window instead of being on the playground engaging in rough and tumble play; really praising his choices to do “feminine” things, even going so far as sharing photos of him in his dress-up tutu on IG with the caption “Raising a boy who isn’t afraid to be himself! #BreakingFree #SmashThePatriarchy" and then hearting the various comments underneath like “Love this! Let him explore!" and “What a beautiful soul!"; subtly steering him away from “masculine” things, saying “I love how you’re not afraid to choose what makes you happy” when he considers the sparkly pink backpack at Target instead of (as one of his moms puts it) “that, ugh, boring boy color”; displaying lack of enthusiasm for his choices to do “masculine” things, saying (with a kid tone, as if representing the child’s own internal voice) “This show is kind of violent, huh?” and then turning the channel away from Ninjago to Powerpuff Girls; all-too-often putting the word “toxic” next to the word “masculine”; sticking the boy in a grade school steeped in “progressive” ideology, with “gender-inclusive teachers” who assign reading materials like Julian Is a Mermaid and I Am Jazz and who really (you know, really) make it a point to praise him for how “fabulous” he looks (“It really fits you!”) with the shiny boa around his neck; reinforcing each night during family dinner (oftentimes with friends over, many of whom have the Prius and the rainbow flag and identify as non-binary, trans, or queer) that it is important for children to “be whoever they want to be, free from societal expectations,” and that it is “super important” (head nods around the table) for parents to “affirm their child’s identity”; adding in bedtime reading materials like Introducing Teddy, which explains that some people feel they were born in the “wrong body” and that such a feeling “makes them special, not bad”; framing gender nonconformity as inherently virtuous (“There’s no one braver than a little kid who refuses to let his parts define him”), something thereby any typical child will feel pulled toward (wanting to make parents proud); having conversations over long car rides about “how beautiful and brave” the neighbor is for supporting their child’s transition, saying “We as parents just need to listen and affirm” and saying “Imagine how many kids feel trapped by gender norms”; telling their “boy,” after he finally gets the hint and identifies as a girl, that “It’s okay to be unsure,” such autonomy-honoring reassurance (after all the groundwork has been laid) more effective (right out of the groomer’s handbook, on purpose or not) at making the identification sink in deeper by means of seeming more like a personal choice as opposed to what seems better to call it (namely, “unintentional” grooming).
The burden of proof, I take it, falls upon me—yes, despite the fact that most of us regard as unproblematic various barbarities inflicted upon children, even when they dissent. Despite sexual activity with children has been happening as long as humans have been around (and is in some sense at a height: popular among celebrity circles and underground trafficking circles alike), and despite pro-pedophilia organizations and forums are gaining popularity in the digital age (as “teen” becomes one of the most common searched porn term”), and despite the many Twitter hashtags (#anyage, #pyt, #nsfwteen) that will get you the pop-shot works when it comes to those who cannot even be over five—despite all this, child-adult sexual activity remains condemned across a variety of cultures. Laws prohibiting sexual contact between adults and children, which range back (at least when we are talking outside of marriage) to the Hittites in 1650 BCE, are widespread across western nations. These laws have become increasingly stringent.
There are enticing reasons behind the longstanding criminalization of child-adult sexual activity (CASA). CASA violates our intuitions concerning right and wrong while also seemingly violating both the commands of the God and the so-called “natural way of things” (issues I discuss in sections 3 through 5)—I say seemingly because it is a stretch in both cases (Mary became the slave of God and the husband of Joseph at around twelve and Mohammed consummated his marriage with Aisha when she was nine, on the one hand, and CASA has been occurring from time immemorial). Cutting even deeper than that, many argue that CASA endangers both child and adult welfare (issues I discuss in sections 6 and 7). In general, it just makes good sense: children are some of our most vulnerable. Their protection needs to be prioritized. We have been breed by evolution to do so. Otherwise our species would not stand a fighting chance at survival. Our laws largely reflect that reality.
However compelling these reasons might seem, my intention is to show that—perhaps in some sense reflecting how often in history lawmakers banned CASA (at least in the form of incest) in the same breath not only as masturbation and anal sex, but also as witchcraft and sorcery—solid foundation is lacking for our moral opprobrium here. By no means do I intend to promote CASA. I am willing to hold, at least for the sake of the argument, a rather high bar when it comes to the boxes that must be checked in order for the sexual activity to count as morally permissible—perhaps so high that it is practically impossible to meet in our day and age; perhaps so high that the early stages of even my own nearly three-decades-long age-gap relationship, as loving and important to me as it was from the very beginning, would be considered immoral (see my NAMBLA article “All the Better for Being ‘Molested’”). I simply hope to bring into relief the possibility of adults and children engaging in morally unproblematic sexual interactions.
Before laying out the criteria that a case of CASA must meet in order be considered morally permissible, let us consider a variety of cases that fall on the spectrum between acceptable and unacceptable CASA.
A. Cases where the sexual activity is coerced, cruel, and harmful
Case 1.—A man drills the vagina of a screaming infant to the goring extremes of death by internal bleeding.
Case 2.—A woman dribbles her vagina in a steady stream of breast milk in order to get her infant—starved beforehand to be more willing—to latch onto her clitoris, slapping it in the face each time it instinctual goes up toward the steady stream instead of sticking to the intended sweet spot.
Case 3.—Unable to control the rowdy preschooler enough to get his penis inside its rectum and yet not wanting to resort to the ground-smash move of the factory farm (since he does not want to go to jail), a man uses sleeping pills first.
B. Cases where the child is neither aware of sexual activity nor sexually stimulated
Case 4.—Vulvic wetness and engorgement chronic over the recent weeks, a horny lady—not into children at all really, just in a one-off event—enjoys how the toddler she babysits brings he to climax as it bounces on her lap.
Case 5.—A farmhand utilizes not the suckling reflex of a calf to receive a so-called “Kansas milking,” but the suckling reflex of the infant (only having it work his testicles because he did not know if any fluids would be harmful the baby).
Case 6.—A man ejaculates onto the back of a sleeping infant, making sure—out of respect for its sleep—not to make any noise.
C. Cases where the child is the aggressor or enticer and both parties are sexually stimulated
Case 7.—A teenaged boy—“horny as hell,” and in a culture where sexual activity is as run of the mill as eating in public (or if not that then a culture where it is a point of pride to have sex with an older woman) such that there is not going to be a situation where years later reflecting back the former child is going to be “traumatized”—asks his former teacher if he “can stretch her out a bit,” which she agrees to on the condition that he use a condom (since she wants to avoid pregnancy if she can) and because she likes him and feels comfortable with him—and so not just because (a) he is the senator’s son or (b) he is a physically-imposing football player twice her size (and so technically holds power over her that extends beyond the physical).
Case 8.—In a culture where neither incest nor sex with children is a taboo, a tween boy asks his aunt if he could practice sex with her because he feels comfortable with her and wants “to learn” (in his words, but having Socrates in mind) “from the wise”—an arrangement she agrees to but, since she firmly stands on the principle that “parents are important supports for helping children assess potential risks,” she takes him on only after consulting his parents, doing so when many others in her shoes would not have either due to the mood-killing awkwardness and potential punch in the face it entails or due to the boy comporting himself in ways that make him more adult than most adults: challenging standard assumptions (even of authority figures); planning for college (even saving money to be able to visit campuses in various international hubs); holding a job and performing it with employee-of-the-month punctuality and excellence; seeking out mentors that will help his goals; organizing charitable events; defending the bullied in the school newspaper (and even one fighting off two boys who were delivering hate-crime kicks to the gut of a trans student); welcoming critical feedback; communicating emotions effectively; standing by his boundaries; remaining composed and calm under pressure; seeking solutions rather than escalating the situation; finding personal pleasure in mentoring others; and so the list of
Case 9.—A tween girl likes to bounce on her father’s lap, which gets her off in secret and also gets him mildly stimulated (enough to stand out on a plethysmograph.
D. Cases where the adult is the aggressor or enticer or instigator and both parties are sexually stimulated
Case 10.—In a culture where engaging in sex with someone is no bigger deal than getting a massage from someone, there are these rooms where boys can make extra money (much easier work than mowing lawns in summer) can jerk off or blow these penises (condomed for sanitary reason) through a glory hole—and one of the boys who likes to do this for extra money finds it enough of a turn on that he masturbates himself at the same time (in a sort of two for one deal).
Case 11.—A man confesses his sexual desire for a pubescent girl and she confesses she has harbored such feelings for him and so—even though they are in a culture that does not have weird hangups about sex, and even though they are in a culture where such age-gap sexuality is quite common (the idea being that you learn to drive from an adult and you learn to have sex from an adult too)—they together decide to have her parents get involved, doing so especially since (a) both know that they would not want this to be only sexual but be a deeper commitment and yet (b) both know that there is enough of a power differential (the man has his own place and job whereas the girl still live at home) that it would be important for her to have adults in her corner—and soon enough their sexual activity is as regular as their dinners with the girl’s family.
Case 12.—On a deserted island where there is only a father and baby who have no hope for rescue and where even if there were such hope it would not matter anyway as far as we are concerned here since the boy—while physically normal for the most part (minus the midget waddle, the flattened face, the upward slanting eyes, the small nose, and the protruding tongue)—has a mental disability that renders him (a) forever unable to communicate through more than basic signs and grunts that would never suffice for telling anyone that ding-a-ling play has occurred (b) forever unable even to conceptualize the idea that the conscientious and caring play the father has in store for him could ever be bad in any meaningful way, the father—after years of raising him (never doing what so many others would have given its endless slobbering noise and the limited resources)—notices the now-pubescent boy playing with himself and so simply hovers over the penis with his mouth: singing to it like if it were a microphone and sending out puffs of titillating jazz-scat until the boy, with quite a linebacker strength to him (what is known colloquially as “retard strength”), grunts in frustration and pulls his caretaker’s mouth over the penis for a sloppy-toppy experience that pretty much becomes—can you blame the boy?—a daily practice (self-directed and self-controlled, not father-directed or father-controlled) over the next few years (the man always jerking himself off in the process, timing his ejaculation with the violence of the boy’s all-too-predictable climax); a daily practice that brings them closer together (as anyone watching could easily telling from the unfakable snuggles that the boy gives the Father especially at night).
Cases 1-3 are unequivocally immoral—at least I will admit under the assumption that children, unlike rocks and hammers, have inherent worth and should not be subject to suffering merely for adult pleasure. Since in these cases the children are clearly dissenting and being coerced while being subject to unnecessary pain and injury, the moral assessment here seems uncontroversial—yes, even if the infant’s traumatic death in Case 1 is a welcomed release from a ghetto lifestyle of crack rock and prostitution. Now, I will say—and perhaps this will shed some light on what I think factors in to deciding whether an incident of CASA is morally permissible—that, with only a few tweaks, Case 2 becomes morally acceptable. Let us say that the infant is not starved and that the women never forces its face onto the desired nub of nerve-rich flesh. Let us say that the woman merely places the milk on the area she wants licked (and it does not have to be her clit, but can even be—old-school style—her nipple, or whatever area gets her juices flowing). If the infant can shimmy itself to the spot of the milk, and is free to stop at any point (instead of being slapped, as in the case at hand), then the incident—seen outside of ideological lenses in terms of bodies in motion—is benign. Indeed, if we change the example to “a mother gets sexually stimulated during breast feeding” (and we make sure to indicate that the mother is letting the baby lead the way while she gets off instead of forcing it to keep latched, say), we wind up with a scenario that happens a hundred times a minute around Earth each day—one that seems not just benign but arguably good since both parties receive pleasure without any harm being done.
Cases 7-9 seem morally permissible. These cases, on top of being mutually enjoyable, are cruelty free and consensual and aligned with the wishes of each party. Indeed, the adult in each case follows the self-ruling lead of the child. No exploitation seems to be involved—no filming the interactions, for example, to later upload the footage onto sex forums. Case 8 stands out as especially unproblematic. The child is exercising his personal autonomy in pursuing sexual education from an elder—a wise move for driving instruction and lovemaking alike. Furthermore, the elder he feels comfortable enough to turn to consults his guardians first—a move that arguably rises above and beyond the call of duty given the boy’s startlingly high level of maturity. Perhaps most importantly of all, this is taking place in a world where sex with children is not a taboo. The relevance of such a detail, which I include in several cases, should be clear. No, the lack-of-taboo detail does not in itself make the sexual activity morally permissible: as far as I am concerned, something can fail to be taboo and yet still be morally impermissible—factory farming being perhaps the paradigm example. Rather, the lack-of-taboo detail preempts a standard consequentialist objection, which goes something like this: sex with children is wrong because, while the child might be okay with it now, they might grow up and—having internalized the values of the day (where sex with children is both the lowest low and one of the most spiritually-emotionally damaging things someone can go through)—are likely to feel wrecked by learning that they were involved in any such thing. The boy, in such a world, is not going to wake up twenty years later psychically and emotional scarred the way he might wake up in our world. His “scarring,” if anything, will be much more endearingly cringey—as in when he thinks back, for instance, on how he ejaculated after only a few awkward stabs at virginal thrusting.
Cases 4-6 I also regard as morally permissible. Even though the child in each case has no idea what is going on, no distress or coercion is involved and the child is free to pursue their own agential goals without disruption. Preempting those sorts of arguments that argue for the impermissibility of the sexual activity on the basis of the fact that adults involved in CASA have a “diseased orientation” (an orientation that, even if not in certain specific situations, proves dangerous to society as a rule), it seems crucial that the horny lady in Case 4 is not a pedophile—or at least not any more a pedophile than a woman is a lesbian for experiencing sexual arousal as a physiological reflex of being rubbed down by a female masseuse. Now, it could be argued that the man in Case 5 is using the infant as a mere means to his own satisfaction. To this I might respond how some slaughterers respond to the ethical objection that they treat cows as mere means to their own personal gain. Namely, just as the cows are not being treated as a mere means in being slaughtered since the cows were paid with food and shelter, the infant in question is not being treated as a mere means when the man lets its suck his testicles since it is paid with food and shelter (and, so we can imagine, loving care). One might insist “But it wants to suck a milky breast, not balls.” Although I remain unconvinced of the relevance of that fact, I can just change the example to avoid debate. Let us say it simply wants to suck on things for self-soothing reasons (which is sometimes the case with very young children). Let us imagine that the man knows this and gives over the scrotal sac. He uses the infant in this case as a mere means no more than I use a dentist as a mere means when I have him fix my teeth for money.
Cases 10-12 might seem more controversial since the adult is the initiator. These too, nevertheless, I regard as morally defensible. All parties experience gratification without distress and all parties are able to dissent at any time. Nor is any child being treated as a mere means. The adult in each case does the equivalent of asking for permission—permission, when applicable, simply to touch the genital region (rather than doing what would be permissible anyway, at least according to the standards we use in instances of child touching whose permissibility we would not think to question: like when we pick the child up or change its school district or so on without any concern with whether its wants to or not. The adult in Case 11, for instance, procures the child’s receptivity to genital touching and the like before even the slightest contact with that area. If only because I will be fighting an uphill battle as I lay out my arguments in the main body of this paper, it is worthwhile to prime the system by highlighting in some detail how difficult it will be for those who reject the moral permissibility of all cases of CASA to handle Case 12.
Leave-it-to-Beaver types who think the values of their insulated towns are the way things have to be (so much so that it feels like a nauseating sin to subject them to competing viewpoints and critical assessment), Hallmark-channel types who are downright incredulous to find anyone would believe anything else than what they do (you know, the ones shocked to find that there really are people, even professors, who do not want to accept Christ in their hearts)—those types, we all know them, will likely be shocked and appalled by Case 12. But Case 12, despite involving not any run-of-the-mill CASA but rather incest between a father and is developmentally-disabled son, might actually be the most immune of the bunch—and no, not just because, as the saying goes, “cake is cake even if the batter is different.” The boy is into it—indeed, enough to force the nearby adult mouth to engage in fellatio. The father is into too: it turns him on giving his son head. The father-son bond even grows stronger because of the sex. There is also no chance for the boy, given both his environment and his mental functioning, to have second thoughts or to start looking negatively on his sexual behavior, sexual behavior that—although not able to result in reproduction—is as natural as other sorts of nonreproductive sex we see occurring since the dawn of humanity and before: from bonobo-style masturbation to bonobo-style female scissoring. Perhaps most importantly, the father prioritizes the boy’s wellbeing: making sure not to get toothy (going all throat); making sure never to force the boy; making sure that the boy leads the way (initiating and breaking free when he wants to); making sure the interacting parts (mouth and penis) are clean (taking more care for hygiene than most people do); making sure the boy gets what the boy wants out of it (which, since he is closer to all brain-stem, is mainly climax); making sure to be empathetic (during the vinegar strokes going really fast with his throat game and letting the boy go deep). The result is a CASA scenario that is more respectful, comfortable, consent-honoring, empathetic, hygienic, bond-building, beneficial, and autonomy-preserving than many of the qualm-free ways we treat children: circumcising them (in some traditions even with our teeth); piercing their ears as newborns; helicopter parenting them even to the stunting extent of shielding them from any immune-boosting germs (like those from making mud pies and interacting with pets) or allergy-preventing exposures (like peanut butter at an early age) or character-building challenges (like encouraging them to go into the store to buy something by themselves); marketing junk-food and sugary drinks and violent toys to them; putting them in ads often involving scenarios that might not reflect their reality and without consideration for their later feelings on the matter; involving them in reality TV shows (yes, even when they are neurotypical and so have futures in which they might feel they have been exploited and that their privacy has been violated. CASA can be more conducive to child wellbeing, so it should be specifically highlighted, than many practices that, despite being outwardly indistinguishable from at least softcore forms of CASA, are cultural mainstays: taking photos of children in minimal clothing (like at the beach) or during moments of physical vulnerability (like changing clothes) for family albums and even sometimes for social media; snuggling in bed with them, sometimes in light and “cute” boundary-breeching ways that ignore a child's personal space preferences; massaging them and playfully spanking them; pinching their butts and subjecting them to tickle torture often in rather private places (yes, even despite the unequivocal screeches and attempts to escape); kissing them on the mouth even when they show resistance, resistance we laugh off without batting a moral eye (“Look at him trying to run away!”); and so on.
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